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Wednesday, December 3, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: When you're too busy to breathe at Christmas

Too Busy to Breathe at Christmas?
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”—Romans 15:13 (NIV)

Christmas is supposed to be the season of joy, peace, and hope.

But if we’re honest, many of us enter December with good intentions only to arrive at Christmas Eve feeling exhausted, frazzled, and secretly counting down the minutes until everything is over.

Between decorating, shopping, family gatherings, church events, end-of-year deadlines, meal planning, and making everything “special", Christmas can become one big swirl of stress. And while we’re running around trying to create the perfect Christmas, our joy quietly slips away.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed this Christmas season, please hear this: You are not failing. You are simply carrying more than God ever asked you to. Even in the bustle of Bethlehem, God was creating a moment of holy stillness. And He invites you into that same stillness now.

Wondering what you can do when you’re too busy to breathe this Christmas? The key is to put your priorities back at the feet of Jesus Christ. Christmas often turns us into Martha as described in the Bible (Luke 10:38-42). She was busy, distracted, and convinced everything depends on us. But Jesus gently reminds us now as He reminded Martha then that “only one thing is needed.” Mary (Martha’s sister) chose the better portion because she chose to spend time with Jesus first.

When the Christmas holiday calendar starts to run you instead of you running it, pause and realign your priorities. Here’s a way to remember this important life lesson (See the “priority” acronym with descriptions for each letter below):

P – Pray

Ask God to reveal what really matters for this season. Every December is different; your capacity this year may not match last year, and that’s okay.

R – Review

Go back to Scripture. Christmas isn’t about perfection; it’s about His presence. What does God say should anchor your life right now?

I – Inventory

Look at the activities, responsibilities, and even traditions on your calendar. Which ones bring life? Which ones drain it?

O – Order

Put things in their proper place. Some tasks are essential; others are optional. Let God show you the difference.

R – Resist

Resist the “tyranny of the urgent,” the pressure to say yes just because something is happening.

I – Input

Ask trusted friends or family: “Is this something I really need to do right now?” God often speaks through wise voices.

T – Take Advantage

Use your time intentionally. There are only 24 hours in a day (even during the busy Christmas season). Ask God to show you how to use them with purpose.

Y – Yield

Lay your plans at His feet. Christmas belongs to Him. Your life belongs to Him. Yielding brings peace.

Still not sure of what you can do when you’re too busy to breathe this Christmas? Here are a few more points to help you (see headings in bold below):

Say “No” Without Guilt – Even During the Holidays

Some of the greatest gifts you can give this Christmas are the words: “No, not this time.” Saying no isn’t selfish. It’s stewardship. God’s grace teaches us to say no to anything that pulls us away from living with peace, joy, and self-control. That includes unrealistic expectations, overwhelming commitments, and traditions that no longer bless your soul. You don’t need long explanations or apologies. A simple, “I won’t be able to do that this year,” is enough. Remember: If God didn’t assign it, He’s not requiring you to carry it.

Let Go of the Unessential

There truly is a season for everything, but not everything belongs in this season. Maybe this isn’t the year to handmake all the Christmas gifts. Maybe this isn’t the year to host every gathering. Maybe this isn’t the year to try a new recipe, decorate every room, or attend every event. Sometimes Christmas requires the courage to let go. Ask the Lord what can wait until another time. Good things are not always God-timed things. Release what no longer fits the capacity, peace, and purpose God has given you for this moment.

No matter how full your life feels right now, God has not abandoned you to busyness. If you put these principles into practice, you’ll experience more joy, more peace, and more hope than you expected.

Remember this beautiful promise: God will never put more on you than He gives you grace to carry. This Christmas, may you choose the better portion, not the perfect holiday, but the holy One who came to bring you rest, renewal, and life.

Let’s Pray: Lord, help me slow down enough to see You in this season. Show me what to release, what to rearrange, and what to embrace so my heart can rest in You. Restore my joy, renew my peace, and let my Christmas be more about Christ than the chaos. Fill me with hope as I trust in You. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “I Need a Silent Night” by Amy Grant. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC, which includes Her RICH Life Coaching, where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats.

She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to do extraordinary things by walking fully in their purpose, calling, and assignment. She knows that each woman has a unique calling that only she can fulfill, and if she doesn’t answer it, that work may never be done. Joyce is deeply aware that there are people waiting for the help only God can give, and He often chooses to work through His people to meet those needs. That’s why Joyce is committed to answering God’s call on her life and inspiring other women to do the same, so together, we can be of greater service to God and one another.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.”

She makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
Facebook Ministry: www.facebook.com/groups/thepurposealignedwoman
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/coachlabforaspiringchristianwomencoaches
Facebook: www.facebook.com/@HerRichLife
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Email address: joyce@herrichlife.com

Wednesday, November 5, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: We all need people in our life who encourage us

The Blessing of a Barnabas
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”—1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)

We all know people who bring doom and gloom wherever they go—the ones who never have a kind word to say, who always find the downside of everything, and whose complaints fill every conversation.

These are not the voices you want speaking into your dreams or shaping your faith. If you want the calling God planted in you to grow and flourish, you need people who will nurture it, protect it, and cheer you on when the road gets tough. In other words, you need a Barnabas.

Barnabas, whose name means “son of encouragement” (Acts 4:36), was the kind of person who made others believe they could become who God called them to be. He didn’t just believe in people from the sidelines, he championed them. When others doubted Paul’s conversion and questioned his sincerity, Barnabas stood beside him and vouched for his transformation (Acts 9:26-27). When John (also called Mark) failed in ministry and others wrote him off, Barnabas gave him another chance (Acts 15:36-39). He saw potential where others saw only problems. He looked beyond someone’s present struggles and called out their God-given destiny.

Every one of us needs someone like that, someone who reminds us of God’s promises when doubt creeps in, who speaks life when our confidence wavers, and who pushes us closer to our purpose when we’re tempted to give up. For me, one of my greatest encouragers has always been my mother. She has prayed over me, believed in me, and consistently pointed me back to God. When challenges came, she refused to let me sit in self-pity. Instead, she spoke truth and hope into my life, reminding me of God’s faithfulness and His plan. Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) tells us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” A true encourager doesn’t just comfort you; they strengthen you in the Lord.

Maybe you’ve been blessed with someone like that, a mentor, friend, coach, or spiritual leader who poured wisdom and encouragement into your journey. If so, cherish them. And if you haven’t had that person yet, don’t give up. Pray and trust that God will bring a Barnabas into your life at the right time.

But what happens when the encouragement you need doesn’t come from the people you expect? Maybe the ones closest to you don’t understand your calling. Maybe they question your dreams or even try to “protect” you from disappointment by discouraging you from taking bold steps. That can feel painful and isolating. But remember, even Jesus Christ experienced this. His own brothers didn’t believe in Him at first (John 7:5). When He returned to His hometown, instead of celebrating Him, the people were skeptical and dismissive (Mark 6:4). Yet Jesus didn’t let their doubt derail His mission. He stayed focused on what God had called Him to do.

You and I must do the same. Keep loving your family and friends, but don’t allow their fear or uncertainty to become your roadblock. God is the one who planted this calling in your heart, and He will provide the right people to walk alongside you and encourage you in the journey.

And while it’s a blessing to have a Barnabas, it’s equally important to be one. Hebrews 3:13 (NIV) instructs us, “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called ‘Today.’” Someone in your life needs your voice of hope. Someone needs to hear you say, “I believe in you. God’s not finished with you yet.” They need your prayers, your presence, and your willingness to stand with them when the world counts them out.

Everyone needs a Barnabas. And maybe, just maybe, someone is praying for you to step into that role. So, ask God to help you recognize those who need encouragement and give you the words to speak life over them. And as you pour into others, watch how God surrounds you with encouragers of your own—people who will champion your dreams and walk beside you as you pursue your God-given calling.

Let’s Pray: Father, thank You for the people You’ve placed in my life who encourage me, speak life into me, and remind me of who I am in You. I’m grateful for every Barnabas You’ve sent my way, those who believe in me when I doubt myself and point me back to Your promises when I feel discouraged. Please, help me to be that same kind of encourager to others. Open my eyes to see who needs a kind word, a prayer, or a reminder of Your faithfulness. Use my voice, my actions, and my faith to strengthen someone else’s journey. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Speak Life” by TobyMac. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Somebody Prayed” by Crowder. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3: “Encourage Yourself” by Donald Lawrence & The Tri-City Singers. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: When staying silent hurts and doesn't help

When Silence Hurts
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

*Note for the Reader: This devotional message mentions abuse and domestic violence. Take the care you need as you read it.

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“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

—Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

I still remember the day she came into my office.

As a former judge, one of my duties was issuing temporary protective orders for victims of domestic violence. One day, a pastor who I had already issued two protective orders for was back again for her third protective order.

I had previously advised her that it was not God’s intent that she live this way. No one had the right to beat her up whenever he felt like it, even if he was her husband. We even discussed how what she was going through was destroying her ministry, how her calling was being overshadowed by her pain. She nodded through tears and promised she would not allow him back into her life.

But she did. She sat before me once more, bruised in body and spirit, asking for another protective order. As we talked, she admitted something that no piece of paper could fix: She loved the man who abused her. This woman told me how exhausting it was to live a double life, preaching and smiling on Sundays as if everything was wonderful, but living in fear every other day of the week. She felt her ministry slipping away, and she was devastated.

In that moment, I realized her problem wasn’t just domestic violence. I issued another protective order for her, but I knew it wouldn’t be enough. Her root problem went deeper than what the law could fix.

Like so many women I’ve encountered as a judge and now as a coach, this pastor was struggling with low self-worth. She didn’t see herself the way God saw her. That lack of identity and confidence in Jesus Christ was chaining her to abuse, and it was keeping her from fulfilling her God-given destiny. Until she confronted that root issue, she would remain trapped in a cycle of pain.

We don’t like to admit it, but domestic violence exists in the church. There are women who sit in pews every Sunday, serving faithfully, smiling outwardly, but silently suffering behind closed doors. Some are married to men who use Scripture to control, manipulate, and even justify their violence.

Let’s be clear: This is not God’s design for marriage. Ephesians 5:25 (ESV) reminds us, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” The love of Christ is sacrificial, protective, and life-giving. It is not harmful or abusive. Any teaching that suggests otherwise is a distortion of God’s Word.

The Lord has always shown His heart for the oppressed. Psalm 34:18 (NIV) says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” God does not turn a blind eye to the suffering of His daughters. He calls the church to be His hands and feet, to stand against injustice, and to help set the captives free (Isaiah 61:1).

For women caught in abuse, the shame and fear can feel overwhelming. But your worth is not defined by what someone has done to you. Your worth is rooted in who you are in Christ. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). You are God’s workmanship, created for purpose (Ephesians 2:10). You are loved with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3).

If you are experiencing domestic violence, know this: You do not have to stay silent. You do not have to endure abuse in the name of marriage, ministry, or appearances. God values your life, your safety and your calling.

For those of us in the church, we must stop looking away. We must create safe spaces for women to speak up without judgment. We must educate ourselves and our congregations on what abuse looks like, including the subtle forms—emotional, financial, or spiritual—that often go unnoticed. We must be willing to walk alongside survivors with compassion and practical support.

The pastor who came into my courtroom needed more than a protective order. She needed to rediscover her worth in Christ. Healing didn’t start with a legal document; it started when she began to see herself as God’s beloved daughter, worthy of safety, dignity, and love.

That is the invitation to every woman reading this who feels trapped: God has not abandoned you. He is your refuge and strength, “an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1 NIV). There is life after abuse. There is hope for healing. And there is a future filled with purpose when you walk in your true identity in Christ.

This October, as we recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let us remember the women sitting silently in our sanctuaries. Let us commit to being voices of truth, arms of comfort, and advocates for justice. Most of all, let us remind every woman who is hurting: God will never give up on you, and He has called you to live free.

Let’s Pray: Heavenly Father, we lift up every woman who is silently suffering from abuse. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, precious in Your sight, and worthy of love that mirrors Christ’s love for the church. Cover her with Your protection, surround her with people who will support her, and give her the courage to step into freedom. Heal every wound—seen and unseen—and restore her hope, peace, and purpose. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Resource: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please reach out for help: National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.): 1-800-799-7233 or text “BEGIN” to 88788 or visit thehotline.org

Song of Reflection #1: “The Healing Has Begun” by Matthew West. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Healing Now” by Katy Nichole. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

Wednesday, September 3, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: How God used teenagers to help save my life

When God Saved My Life
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please’.”—Isaiah 46:10 (NIV)

In 1989, I was teaching a Sunday school class for high school-aged students in my church. Those Sunday mornings were the highlight of my week. I loved pouring into those teens, laughing with them, praying over them, and walking beside them as they grew in their faith and navigated life. We weren’t just filling our traditional role as teacher and students. We were family.

One Sunday, I noticed that a pair of 16-year-old twin sisters hadn’t been there for a few weeks. Concerned, I asked the class if they knew what was going on. The students told me that one of the twins had developed a serious alcohol addiction and was now in treatment. Her sister had chosen to stay home until they could come back together.

My heart broke. I reached out to their parents, who confirmed everything the class had said. That following Sunday, I brought the situation up with the teens and asked how we could support the girls. One student said, “We should pray for them.” Absolutely. But then another teen quietly offered, “Maybe we could sign pledges not to drink alcohol until we’re adults.”

I was floored, but in the best way. These kids wanted to stand in solidarity and to commit to something hard as a sign of support. I told them I’d write up pledges and bring them next week. Then someone asked, “Are you signing one too?”

Before I could answer, another student chimed in, “But she’s already old! She can drink if she wants to!” We all laughed. But I said, “You know what? I’ll sign a pledge too. I won’t drink alcohol until each one of you has graduated from high school.”

One by one, they graduated. And I kept my word. For years, I completely gave up alcohol— I had no celebratory glass of wine and no fruity drink at a wedding reception. But then something unexpected happened. When I could finally drink again if I wanted to, I realized that I no longer wanted to.

Fast forward to 2020. At my annual checkup, my doctor sat me down to go over my lab results. My liver enzyme numbers were alarmingly high. A specialist visit and liver biopsy followed that appointment. The diagnosis: autoimmune liver disease. The doctor gently explained that if I hadn’t stopped drinking back in 1989, my condition would have progressed far more rapidly. In fact, he said, best-case scenario, I would have needed a liver transplant, and worst-case scenario, I could have died years earlier.

I sat there stunned, but so thankful. What I thought was a simple act of solidarity with some teenagers turned out to be the very decision that saved my life.

Here’s what I know now: God knew. He knew what was coming even when I didn’t. That’s the beauty of His omniscience. He sees the end from the beginning. Isaiah 46:10 (NIV) reminds us, “I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’”

When I made that pledge, it felt like a small sacrifice. But now I know it was God nudging me through the Holy Spirit to do something that didn’t just bless others, it protected me. It wasn’t a rule or restriction. It was grace. Divine foresight wrapped in love.

Sometimes we don’t understand the “no” we get from God. Sometimes the door that closes feels like a loss. But often, God’s “no” is a “yes” to something better, something life-giving or even life-saving. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) reminds us to, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

That Sunday School classroom was holy ground, not just for the students, but for me too. I look back and see how God used their pain, their courage, and their ideas to plant something in me that would bloom decades later in the form of protection and healing. What a faithful, loving God we serve.

If you’re in a season where God has said “no” or asked you to release something that doesn’t make sense, I want to encourage you: He sees what you can’t. He knows what’s ahead. His plans are always for your good (Jeremiah 29:11), even when the steps don’t feel good in the moment.

That pledge wasn’t just for a moment. It was for a lifetime. And through it, God wrote a story I never could have imagined, a story of obedience, healing, and grace. I’m still in awe, as I’m reminded that God’s answer is always the right answer at the right time.

Let’s Pray: Heavenly Father, thank You for seeing the end from the beginning and lovingly guiding our steps, even when we don’t understand the “why”. Thank You for the unexpected ways You protect us, often through small acts of obedience that carry great purpose. Help us to trust Your “no” as much as we celebrate Your “yes” because we know that Your plans are always for our good. Teach us to lean into Your wisdom, rest in Your timing, and remain faithful, even when the road ahead is unclear. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Thank You” by The Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “The Master’s Hand” by Annie Herring. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

Wednesday, August 6, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: Why we should speak life with love to people

Speak Life with Love
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

—Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)

A little while ago, I attended the 60th birthday party of a good friend.

She is someone with whom I’ve shared life, laughter, and legal war stories with for decades. As part of the celebration, each guest was invited to share a recorded memory or favorite story about the birthday girl.

One particular video brought a chuckle from the crowd but had me squirming in my seat. The story took place many years ago when the birthday girl, another friend and I were all young attorneys trying to find our footing in a profession that was not always welcoming to women. We had noticed that a new, younger attorney who was smart, driven, and full of promise, was struggling to be taken seriously by the senior attorneys.

So, we did what we thought was wise at the time: We invited her to lunch and gave her “the talk.” Not about work ethic, skill development, or networking. No, we told her that her skirts were too short and her tops too low-cut. We didn’t pull any punches. We told her flat out: If she wanted to advance, she needed to change the way she dressed. Needless to say, our unsolicited advice didn’t land well. In fact, it earned us a nickname that still haunts me to this day: the “Fashion Police.”

When I heard the story retold at the party, I cringed. Not because the story wasn’t true, but because of how we handled it. Even though we meant well, our delivery lacked grace, compassion, and love. Have you ever had one of those moments when you said the right thing the wrong way or at the wrong time? Maybe you had good intentions, but your words caused harm rather than help.

That day, we failed to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). And that’s where everything went sideways. Here are some lessons I’ve learned over the years regarding the power of our words in relation to others:

Lesson #1: Truth Without Love is Just Noise

There’s a reason Paul tells us in Ephesians to speak the truth in love. Truth without love is harsh. It’s like tossing a stone when someone needs a hand. Yes, our words were true, but they weren’t tender. And they weren’t asked for.

Looking back, I realize we hadn’t invested enough in a relationship with her. We hadn’t earned the right to speak into her life in such a personal way. There’s an old saying: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” That day, our colleague didn’t feel our care, she felt our criticism.

Lesson #2: Words that Build, Not Break

Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.” Our words are meant to edify, not tear down. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) reminds us that “the tongue has the power of life and death.” Our words can breathe life into someone's dreams or snuff them out entirely.

That young attorney later confessed that our comments had made her question her career path. Thank God she didn’t quit. Thank God she pressed on and has since enjoyed a successful, impactful legal career.

I’m ashamed that my words almost became a stumbling block. I wanted to help, but I let judgment speak louder than love.

Lesson #3: Peace Requires Prayer

1 Thessalonians 5:13 (NIV) encourages us to “live in peace with each other.” Peace doesn’t just happen. It requires intention. Encouraging words promote peace. Careless words create confusion. After that unfortunate lunch, we didn’t just stir up gossip, we stirred up division.

If I had prayed before speaking, things might have gone differently. But in my pride and certainty, I never stopped to ask God, “Is this how You would have me handle this?”

That’s a lesson I carry with me now: Praying to God for wisdom in what you say before speaking is a spiritual discipline. The Holy Spirit is our Counselor and Guide. If we truly want to build others up and reflect Christ in our conversations, we must invite Him into our words.

James 1:19 (NIV) gives us the blueprint: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” That verse alone could save us from a world of regret.

Lesson #4: Let’s Be Life-Givers

As women of faith, we are called to be life-givers. Not just in what we do, but in what we say. We all have moments we wish we could take back, words we wish we could unsay. But even in those moments, there is grace. God redeems, teaches, and transforms. My unfortunate experience taught me to pause, to pray, and to speak with care. I never want to be remembered for being “right” more than I’m remembered for being kind.

Conclusion: Let’s be women who speak life. Let’s commit to building bridges, not walls. Let’s speak truth but let’s do it with gentleness, wisdom, and love. Because in the end, it’s not just what we say. It’s how we say it, and why.

Let’s Pray: Lord, help me to speak with wisdom, compassion, and grace. Teach me to be slow to speak and quick to listen, always seeking to build others up and not tear them down. Holy Spirit, guide my words so that they reflect Your love and truth. May every word I say bring life, healing, and peace to those around me. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Words” by Hawk Nelson. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

Wednesday, July 2, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: When it's time to let go of the heavy loads

It’s Time to Let Go of the Extra Baggage
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”—Matthew 11:28–30 (NLT)

One of the things travelers loved most about Southwest Airlines was the ability to check two bags for free. It was a standout feature that made flying a little easier and a little lighter. But recently, the airline ended that policy, announcing that passengers would now be charged for both the first and second checked bags. Anything beyond that? You’ll pay even more.

As I read the news, something stirred in my spirit. Isn’t that how life works, too? The more baggage we carry, the more it costs us.

I’m not talking about suitcases or carry-ons. I’m talking about the unseen loads we drag through life—emotional and spiritual burdens that quietly weigh us down. Unforgiveness. Shame. Anger. Regret. Wounds from the past that never fully healed. Mistakes that God has already forgiven, but we keep picking back up. Some of us are carrying full matched luggage sets, dragging them from one season to the next, wondering why we feel so heavy and worn out.

Here’s the truth: God never designed us to live burdened. He didn’t call us to be weighed down by baggage He already made provision to carry.

Jesus Christ makes a gentle, life-giving offer in Matthew 11:28–30 (NLT): Then Jesus said, ‘Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

What a beautiful invitation. If you're tired—emotionally drained, spiritually burnt out, or just plain worn down—you can have hope because Jesus invites you to come to Him just as you are. Not get it together. Not try harder. Just come. And when we do, He doesn’t shame us for the baggage. He simply says, “Let Me carry that.”

The cost of extra baggage may not show up on your bank statement, but it will show up in other ways: in your peace of mind, your joy, your growth, and your connection with God and others. When we hold on to what God has called us to release, we lose clarity, freedom, and the lightness of walking in step with Him.

Hebrews 12:1 (NLT) encourages us with these words: “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.”

You can’t run freely while dragging baggage you were never meant to carry. You can’t step fully into your calling when you're clinging to burdens Jesus Christ already carried on the cross. It’s time to release what’s behind so you can reach for what’s ahead.

In Philippians 3:13–14 (NLT), the Apostle Paul reminds us of an important life lesson that we can all learn. He said, “I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.”

God wants you to travel light. That means trusting Him with your past, believing Him for your future, and surrendering the messy in-between (your disappointments, your doubts, your questions) at His feet.

Maybe you’ve grown accustomed to the heaviness. Maybe your baggage feels so familiar that it’s become part of your identity. But hear this, my friend: you don’t have to carry it anymore. Jesus already paid the price for that excess baggage. The cross was more than enough. He bore the weight so you could walk free.

So today, unpack your baggage and lay it all before God—every hidden hurt, every secret shame, every lingering fear. He’s not surprised by what you’ve carried. He’s ready to exchange it for peace, healing, and rest. No more paying the cost for what God has already redeemed. No more dragging bags into your next season.

Let today be the day you travel lighter. It’s time to unpack. It’s time to let go. It’s time to move forward, freely and lightly, in Him.

Let’s Pray: Lord, I lay down the burdens I’ve been carrying, all those things You never intended for me to hold. Help me to trust You with my past, rest in Your presence today, and move forward in the freedom You’ve already provided. Teach me to travel light, anchored in Your grace and guided by Your peace. Thank You for always inviting me to come as I am and for lovingly lifting what weighs me down. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Come Just As You Are” by Crystal Lewis. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Press On” by Selah. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3: “Pieces” by Meredith Andrews. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

Wednesday, June 4, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: Trusting God to write the story of our life

Trusting God with the Threads
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.”—Isaiah 61:1-3 (NIV)

This past week, I found myself in a quiet, unplanned moment of purpose.

I had a chance conversation with a young college student who reminded me just how much we all long for direction and reassurance. As we talked, she mentioned she was majoring in criminal justice and had been thinking about going to law school. But then her voice softened, and she said, “I’ve heard law school is really hard…and even then, there’s no guarantee I’ll have a good life if I become a lawyer.”

Her words stirred something in me. I could see the hope in her eyes, but I also saw the fear—fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of disappointment. And I understood. Because I’ve been there.

I shared with her a bit of my own journey—how I went to law school, became a lawyer, and eventually a judge. I didn’t sugarcoat it. I told her the truth: There were some high moments and some hard ones. I made mistakes. There were seasons when I cried out to God, wondering if I had missed something, messed up something, or misunderstood His plan for me. But I also told her this: There are no guarantees that law school—or any career path—will automatically lead to a good life. A good life isn’t found in a title, a paycheck, or a five-year plan. A good life is found when God is at the center of it.

I looked at that young sister and told her, “If you give God first place in your life, He will walk with you through every season—the joyful ones and the painful ones. God will make your life beautiful in His time.”

As I said those words, I smiled, because I meant them. My life doesn’t look like what I imagined it would. In some ways, it looks completely different. But I can say with confidence and peace: God is making it beautiful.

I’ve come to see life as a tapestry. If you’ve ever looked at the back of a tapestry, you know it’s not pretty. It’s a mess of threads and knots and loose ends. But flip it over, and you see the beauty of the design. Every knot has a purpose. Every thread plays a part in creating the picture.

That’s how God works with our lives. From the outside—or even to our own eyes—it may look jumbled and chaotic. Maybe it feels like nothing is coming together. But God is weaving something intentional. Something eternal. Something beautiful.

There’s an old gospel song performed by Shirley Caesar and the lyrics say we shouldn’t take anything for our journey. What that means is this: We shouldn’t resent or try to discard the experiences, good or bad, that have shaped us along the way. Every moment, even the painful ones, has value. I feel that deep in my soul. Every trial, every setback, every hard “no” that led to a better “yes”, and all of it has been part of the tapestry God is weaving in me.

Your life may not look the way you thought it would. Maybe divorce, illness, childlessness, unemployment or heartbreak have left you wondering if your story is still worth telling. I want you to hear this: God is not done. He is still writing. Still weaving. Still creating beauty.

Isaiah 61:3 reminds us that God gives us “a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” That’s not just a poetic promise, it’s real. He is the only One who can turn our ashes into something glorious.

So, wherever you are today, whether you feel like the back of the tapestry or haven’t seen the pattern come together yet, hold on. Trust the Master Weaver. He’s not finished with you yet.

And when it’s all said and done, you’ll look back and smile too, knowing that through every twist and turn, God was making it beautiful.

Let’s Pray: Lord, thank You for being the Master Weaver of my life. Even when the threads feel tangled and the pattern is unclear, help me to trust that You are creating something beautiful. May my life reflect Your glory, even in the waiting. In Jesus’s name, I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “I Wouldn't Take Nothing for My Journey” by Shirley Caesar. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “God is in This Story” by Katy Nichole & Big Daddy Weave. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3: “When It’s All Been Said and Done” by Robin Mark. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC. It includes Her RICH Coaching where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats. She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in early 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to accomplish the extraordinary by living their purpose, calling, and assignment. He has chosen every woman to fulfill a calling that is hers alone. And if she does not answer that calling, then that work will never be done. Joyce knows that there are people who are waiting for help that only God can give and only God can use His people to help each other. Joyce believes that we are called by God to help each other. She wants to answer that call and inspire others to answer it too so we can be of service to God.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.” In addition to being an entrepreneur, Joyce currently serves as the Associate Teaching Director for the Community Bible Study International class in Georgetown, SC.

Joyce makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
Facebook Ministry: www.facebook.com/groups/thepurposealignedwoman
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/coachlabforaspiringchristianwomencoaches
Facebook: www.facebook.com/@HerRichLife
Instagram: www.instagram.com/herrichlife
Email address: joyce@herrichlife.com

Wednesday, May 7, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: How to cure an identity crisis with God's truth

The Only Title that Matters
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.”

—Isaiah 43:1 (ESV)

A while ago, I had a coaching client who found herself in the middle of a full-blown identity crisis.

On paper, her life looked great. She had a good-paying job, a supportive family, and the kind of professional status that turns heads in a room. But when she sat across from me on Zoom, her eyes filled with tears. She whispered, “I hate my job. Every day, I feel like a piece of me is dying. I want to quit, but I just can’t.”

It wasn’t about money—she and her husband had already discussed it, and they were on the same page. The bills would be paid. The kids would be fine. The issue wasn’t her bank account. It was her identity.

“I don’t know who I am without this job title,” she said.

Maybe you’ve never said those exact words, but I wonder, have you ever felt like you were only valuable because of what you do at work or at church? Have you ever wondered who you’d be if the titles, the accolades, or the responsibilities were stripped away? If so, you’re not alone. This is something many women, especially high-achieving women, struggle with. They’ve spent years climbing ladders, meeting expectations, and wearing masks just to prove their worth.

I want to lovingly remind you of this truth: You are not what you do. You are who God says you are. The life of Abraham gives us a powerful reminder that our identity is found in belonging to God, not in doing great things for God.

If Abraham had a LinkedIn profile, it would be impressive: left his homeland in obedience to God’s call, trusted God for a child in his old age, nearly sacrificed his son out of sheer faith. But let’s be honest, Abraham had some missteps too. He lied (not once, but twice) about Sarah being his sister instead of his wife. He and his wife became impatient and tried to help God’s plan for a heir of their own along by having a child with Hagar who was Sarah’s servant. And there were moments when his faith wavered. But, despite all of those wrong turns and lack of unwavering faith in the promises of God, Scripture tells us in James 2:23 (ESV), “Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness”—and he was called a friend of God.”

God didn’t define Abraham by his failures or his achievements. He saw his faith. He saw his heart. And He called him friend. Isn’t that encouraging? The Creator of Heaven and Earth doesn’t look at your résumé, social media followers, or your to-do list to determine your worth. He looks at your heart. And when He sees you in Christ, He sees righteousness, holiness, and redemption (1 Corinthians 1:30).

We live in a world that constantly tries to name us: successful, unsuccessful, too old, not enough, behind, broken, busy, burnt out. But you and I don’t belong to this world. We belong to a kingdom where value isn’t based on performance, but on presence—God’s presence in you. We matter to God because we belong to Him. Our security and true identity are found in being a follower of Jesus Christ, a child of the Eternal King. We are not truly defined by our job title nor is our worth in it. You have priceless value and are treasured by God not because of your perfectly curated life nor because of your ministry work for Him. Your identity, your value, your wholeness all comes from being in Christ. This is the truth: Your identity as a child of the Most High God is the greatest title you will ever carry.

So don’t let the enemy—or your own inner critic—put any other label on you. Not “failure”, not “has-been”, not “too late”, not “not enough.” God calls you chosen, beloved, redeemed, and His Child. That’s the only name that matters in eternity.

You may change careers. You may shift roles. Life may take you through different seasons. But none of that changes who you are in God’s eyes. You are His. Period.

So today, if you’ve been finding your identity in what you do, I invite you to lay it down. Just lay it all at His feet. And in its place, pick up the truth of who you really are. The world may celebrate what you do, but Heaven rejoices in who you are.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father,

Help me to remember that I am Yours not because of what I do, but because of who You are. Strip away every false identity I’ve clung to and remind me that I am accepted, loved, and enough just as I am. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “The Truth” by Megan Woods. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Who You Say I Am” by Hillsong Worship. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC. It includes Her RICH Coaching where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats. She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in early 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to accomplish the extraordinary by living their purpose, calling, and assignment. He has chosen every woman to fulfill a calling that is hers alone. And if she does not answer that calling, then that work will never be done. Joyce knows that there are people who are waiting for help that only God can give and only God can use His people to help each other. Joyce believes that we are called by God to help each other. She wants to answer that call and inspire others to answer it too so we can be of service to God.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.” In addition to being an entrepreneur, Joyce currently serves as the Associate Teaching Director for the Community Bible Study International class in Georgetown, SC.

Joyce makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
Facebook Ministry: www.facebook.com/groups/thepurposealignedwoman
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/coachlabforaspiringchristianwomencoaches
Facebook: www.facebook.com/@HerRichLife
Instagram: www.instagram.com/herrichlife
Email address: joyce@herrichlife.com

Wednesday, April 2, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: How to know if you've truly forgiven someone

Have You Truly Forgiven?
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”—Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)

I truly thought I had forgiven my friend.

We had been close for over 20 years. Even though we lived in different states, we stayed connected with long phone calls, encouraging texts, and making it a point to see each other at least once a year.

But everything changed a little over a year ago. She shared a personal confidence of mine with several people—something I had trusted her to keep private. When I confronted her, trying to express how deeply betrayed I felt, she brushed it off. “It wasn’t a big deal,” she said. “You just need to get over it.”

But it was a big deal to me. And in that moment, our friendship dissolved. We stopped speaking. So, I did what I knew to do—I prayed. I asked the Lord to help me forgive her. I believed He had answered my prayer. I thought I had moved on. Then one day, I heard about a wonderful blessing she had received. And instead of feeling happy for her, my first thought was, “How could she get that after what she did to me?”

Immediately, the Holy Spirit convicted me. If I had truly forgiven her, why was I keeping score? Why was I weighing her worthiness? Who am I to decide whether someone deserves God’s goodness? The truth hit hard: I was still holding on to unforgiveness. And that is sin. Maybe you’ve been there too.

Have you ever replayed a confrontation in your mind, imagining how you’d say things differently, setting the record straight? Have you secretly felt satisfied when something negative happened to the person who wronged you? Or, like me, have you been shocked when God blessed them, wondering how He could pour out His favor on someone who hurt you?

These are the quiet, subtle signs that we haven’t extended true forgiveness. And Jesus Christ made it clear: forgiveness isn’t optional. Why do we forgive? Because God forgave us. The Bible says in Ephesians 4:32 (NIV), “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” None of us stand righteous before God apart from His grace. We have been forgiven more than we could ever repay. And just as God extended mercy to us, He calls us to extend it to others. Remember: Forgiving everyone is not a suggestion, it is a command from God.

Let’s read what Jesus says about forgiveness in Matthew 18:21-22 (ESV): Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

Peter wanted a limit – a boundary where he could say, “That’s enough.” But Jesus made it clear: true forgiveness isn’t about keeping count. It’s about a heart of grace.

It’s also important to remember that carrying unforgiveness has consequences. Matthew 6:14-15 (ESV) reminds us that, “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

This is one of the hardest truths in Scripture. Unforgiveness doesn’t just affect our relationships with others. It also affects our relationship with God. Holding onto bitterness blocks us from experiencing the fullness of His grace.

I’d like to address the misconception about forgiveness. Too often, we wait for an apology. We want the person who hurt us to acknowledge their wrongdoing, to understand the pain they caused, and to ask for forgiveness. But here’s the thing: God forgave us without demanding anything in return. That’s what grace is all about. Romans 5:8 (NIV) says, “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Before we repented. Before we asked for mercy. Before we could even see the depth of our sin, He forgave us.

So, if we require something from the person who wronged us before we forgive them, then we don’t really understand grace. But how do we truly forgive?

First, acknowledge the hurt. Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t happen. Jesus never minimized sin. He acknowledged it but chose to forgive anyway.

Next, surrender it to God. Let go of the desire to see justice done your way. Trust that God is the ultimate judge.

Then, pray for them. It’s hard to stay bitter toward someone when you’re genuinely praying for their well-being. Jesus told us to pray for our enemies because prayer changes our hearts, too.

Also, release the scorecard. Stop keeping track of offenses. If you’re still tallying the wrongs, you haven’t truly let them go.

Finally, remember who you are. You are a recipient of God’s mercy. And if you’ve been forgiven, how can you not extend the same grace?

Forgiveness is not about excusing wrong behavior. It’s not about letting people continue to hurt you. But it is about freeing your heart from the weight of bitterness. That’s what the Holy Spirit reminded me about my friend. So, I confessed my sin with a heart of real forgiveness this time. My friend and I are still not besties like before, but we’re speaking again. And I can honestly say that I have forgiven her because Jesus died for her just as much as He died for me.

If you’re still holding on to unforgiveness for someone who hurt you, release it. Let it go. Walk in freedom because when we truly forgive everyone, we reflect the heart of Christ.

Let’s Pray: Lord, You have forgiven me for so much. Who am I not to forgive others? Help me to forgive those who hurt me. Help me to extend the same grace to them that You have extended to me. In the name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Forgiveness” by Matthew West. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC. It includes Her RICH Coaching where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats. She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in early 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to accomplish the extraordinary by living their purpose, calling, and assignment. He has chosen every woman to fulfill a calling that is hers alone. And if she does not answer that calling, then that work will never be done. Joyce knows that there are people who are waiting for help that only God can give and only God can use His people to help each other. Joyce believes that we are called by God to help each other. She wants to answer that call and inspire others to answer it too so we can be of service to God.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.” In addition to being an entrepreneur, Joyce currently serves as the Associate Teaching Director for the Community Bible Study International class in Georgetown, SC.

Joyce makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
Facebook Ministry: www.facebook.com/groups/thepurposealignedwoman
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/coachlabforaspiringchristianwomencoaches
Facebook: www.facebook.com/@HerRichLife
Instagram: www.instagram.com/herrichlife
Email address: joyce@herrichlife.com

Wednesday, March 5, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: Are you a follower or fan of Jesus Christ?

Mad About God
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

Then I said, “I will not make mention of Him, nor speak anymore in His name.” But His word was in my heart like a burning fire shut up in my bones; I was weary of holding it back, and I could not.—Jeremiah 20:9 (NKJV)

For college basketball fans, March Madness is the highlight of the season.

Every year, during March and April, teams battle through a series of intense elimination games to determine the national champion. It’s an exciting time full of buzzer-beaters, Cinderella stories, and unexpected upsets.

But March Madness isn’t just about basketball. It’s about passion.

Die-hard fans will do just about anything to stay glued to the games. Employees mysteriously “call in sick” so they can watch their favorite teams play. People paint their faces—and sometimes their entire bodies—in school colors, proudly displaying their loyalty. Offices buzz with excitement as co-workers bet on who will take home the championship. Brackets are meticulously filled out and updated, sometimes by the hour, as fans track every win and loss.

Even though I don’t get caught up in the full madness of it all, I do enjoy watching the games and cheering for my favorite teams. But as I watched the championship game last year, something struck me. I couldn’t help but wonder: What if we, as believers, were as passionate about being on God’s team as these fans are about their basketball teams?

That thought challenged me, and I hope it challenges you too. Because if we're truly playing for God’s team, then we should live like it. That means asking ourselves some serious questions (see the questions in bold below).

Question #1: Do Others Know Whose Team You’re On?

You can always tell who the die-hard basketball fans are. They proudly wear their team’s colors, chant their fight songs, and defend their team to anyone who will listen. Their loyalty is loud and clear. But as followers of Jesus Christ, can the same be said about us?

Do people know you belong to Jesus? Can they tell, not just by what you say, but by how you live? The Bible reminds us in Romans 1:16 (NIV), “For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes.” That means we don’t just represent Jesus Christ on Sundays. We represent Him in our workplaces, in our communities, and even in the everyday moments when no one is watching.

We may be the only Bible some people will ever read. And while none of us get it right 100% of the time, when we fall short, we must be quick to repent and get back in the game.

Question #2: How Are You Getting Along with Your Teammates?

There’s an old saying that Christians are the only ones who shoot their wounded.

In basketball, a team can’t win if the players are constantly fighting with each other instead of working together. No matter how talented individual players are, their success depends on unity.

The same is true for the body of Christ. We are all broken people, saved by grace, and called to love and support one another. John 13:35 (NIV) says, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” That love isn’t just for the people who are easy to get along with—it applies to everyone, even those who challenge us.

As believers, our goal isn’t to tear each other down. It’s to build each other up. To extend grace when others fall. To be quick to forgive. To encourage one another to keep pressing toward the ultimate prize.

Question #3: Are You Playing to Win?

In basketball, every player on the court has one goal in mind: the championship trophy. They train relentlessly, push through exhaustion, and stay focused because they know what’s at stake. As believers, we are also pressing toward a prize—but ours is much greater than any earthly championship. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 9:25 NIV, “Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever.”

Life will bring challenges. We’ll face obstacles. We’ll have days when we feel like quitting. But 2 Corinthians 4:17 (NIV) reminds us: “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”

Remember: Your trials are temporary. Your struggles will not last forever. But your faithfulness to God? That has eternal value. Don’t let the distractions of this world pull you away from what really matters. Keep your eyes on the ultimate prize: eternity with Jesus. Stay in the game, stay committed, and keep pressing on.

March Madness fans go all out for their teams. They wear their colors, cheer with everything they’ve got, and never miss a game. What would happen if we showed that same level of passion for God? What if we lived so boldly in our faith that people had no doubt whose team we were on?

The truth is, we are all in the middle of a game—one that’s far more important than basketball. And the best part? We already know how it ends. In Christ, we have victory. So, suit up, stay faithful, and play to win. The final championship—the one that truly matters—belongs to those who endure to the end (Matthew 24:13).

Are you in?

Let’s Pray: Lord God, I am madly in love with You. Help me to stay all in so that I may endure to the end and receive my eternal crown. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “I Am Not Ashamed” by Heritage Singers. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Victory Belongs to Jesus” by Todd Dulaney. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC. It includes Her RICH Coaching where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats. She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in early 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to accomplish the extraordinary by living their purpose, calling, and assignment. He has chosen every woman to fulfill a calling that is hers alone. And if she does not answer that calling, then that work will never be done. Joyce knows that there are people who are waiting for help that only God can give and only God can use His people to help each other. Joyce believes that we are called by God to help each other. She wants to answer that call and inspire others to answer it too so we can be of service to God.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.” In addition to being an entrepreneur, Joyce currently serves as the Associate Teaching Director for the Community Bible Study International class in Georgetown, SC.

Joyce makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
Facebook Ministry: www.facebook.com/groups/thepurposealignedwoman
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/coachlabforaspiringchristianwomencoaches
Facebook: www.facebook.com/@HerRichLife
Instagram: www.instagram.com/herrichlife
Email address: joyce@herrichlife.com

Wednesday, February 5, 2025

Devotionals for the Heart: What to do when you're running on empty

Are You Running on Empty?
A devotional by Joyce M. Averils

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” –Matthew 11:28-29 (NIV)

Recently, my friend Annie shared a story that made me stop and reflect for a minute. She ran out of gas right in the middle of one of the busiest intersections in Atlanta. Let me tell you her story of how she got there.

Annie had been having a typical week at the office, which for her meant long hours, back-to-back meetings, and deadlines that kept piling up. Then, in the middle of all that, a close friend got sick and needed someone to care for her. Without hesitation, Annie stepped in. That meant in addition to her demanding sixty-plus hour workweek, she was now preparing meals, picking up prescriptions, and running errands for her friend.

On the outside, she seemed to be managing it all with grace. She juggled work, caregiving, and life’s many other responsibilities until the moment her car wouldn't start. She had just stopped at a red light at Peachtree Street and North Avenue, a major intersection, during the chaos of rush hour traffic. When the light turned green, she pressed the gas pedal and nothing happened. Panic set in. What was wrong? Was the car battery dead? Had the engine failed? She glanced at the dashboard for warning lights, but nothing seemed out of place. Then her eyes dropped to the fuel gauge. It indicated that her gas tank was empty.

In all of her busyness, she had completely forgotten to stop for gas. She meant to. She knew she needed to. But there was always one more thing to do, one more errand to run, one more person who needed her help. And now, at the worst possible moment, her car had come to a complete stop.

Have you ever felt like that? Like you're constantly moving, giving, and doing but never stopping to refuel? Life can be overwhelming at times. Between work, family, ministry, and personal responsibilities, it's easy to push yourself to the limit without realizing how exhausted you’ve become.

Women especially are known for being expert multitaskers. We take pride in our ability to juggle multiple roles, to be there for everyone who needs us. And sometimes, we even convince ourselves that we can keep going without stopping because there’s just too much to do. But here’s the truth: Just like a car, you cannot run on empty. At some point, if you don’t stop to refuel, you will come to a complete halt – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And often, it happens at the most inconvenient time.

Even Jesus Christ’s disciples struggled with this. In Mark 6:30-32, the disciples were so busy ministering to people that they didn’t even have time to eat. Jesus saw their exhaustion, so He told them in Mark 6:31 (NIV): “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” So, they stepped away. They didn’t argue that there was more work to do. They didn’t feel guilty for taking a break. They followed Christ’s lead and withdrew to a quiet place for rest.

If you feel like you’re running on empty, take a moment to stop. Give yourself permission to rest. Find your quiet place—whether that’s a morning walk, time in prayer, or just sitting in silence with God’s Word. Let Him refill and restore you. Because when you take time to refuel, you’ll find the strength to keep going not just for a moment, but for the long haul.

This is the lesson my friend Annie learned. She told me that while she waited for AAA to bring her some gas, she had the time for the first time that week, to get quiet and really talk to the Lord. In that moment, she realized that just like her gas tank, she was running on empty—something she did not have to do. It was a frustrating and scary way to learn the lesson, but it got her attention. Now she remembers that she must take the time to check her personal tank on a regular basis, just like she checks her gas tank, to make sure it is not empty.

Annie’s story is a lesson for all of us.

Let’s Pray: Lord, I’m tired. I need rest. So, I am coming to you today to lay everything down at your feet. I pray for the space to stop, refuel, and rest in You. Energize me physically and spiritually so that I can be the woman You are calling me to be in every area of my life. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Worn” by Tenth Avenue North. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joyce M. Averils is an attorney by education and a retired judge who currently works as a Life Purpose and Business Empowerment Coach.

She attended the University of South Carolina where she received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Humanities and Social Sciences, with a concentration in Political Science in May 1981. Upon graduation from the University, she attended The Ohio State University’s Moritz College of Law, where she graduated with a Juris Doctor degree in June 1984. Joyce was admitted to the Georgia Bar in November of 1984.

During her legal career, she served as the legal advisor for an episode of the American television program “Designing Women”. She also successfully argued a zoning case before the Georgia Supreme Court.

Today, she is the founder of Averils Omnimedia, LLC. It includes Her RICH Coaching where she helps high-achieving women of faith create a purpose-aligned life and business through coaching programs, workshops, and retreats. She recently launched 26th & Alden Paper Design House which will release its first paper product in early 2025.

Joyce believes that God created women to accomplish the extraordinary by living their purpose, calling, and assignment. He has chosen every woman to fulfill a calling that is hers alone. And if she does not answer that calling, then that work will never be done. Joyce knows that there are people who are waiting for help that only God can give and only God can use His people to help each other. Joyce believes that we are called by God to help each other. She wants to answer that call and inspire others to answer it too so we can be of service to God.

Her life verse is John 17:4 (NIV), “I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.” In addition to being an entrepreneur, Joyce currently serves as the Associate Teaching Director for the Community Bible Study International class in Georgetown, SC.

Joyce makes her home on the coast of South Carolina.

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Connect with Joyce:
Website: www.herrichlife.com
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