Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts

Monday, March 16, 2026

Devotionals for the Heart: God is always with us so we are never alone


Never Alone
A devotional by Melissa Henderson

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”—John 16:33 (NIV)


Every morning, I open the front door of the house and give thanks to God.

Then, I walk to the back door, open it, and give thanks to God again. This simple routine allows me to begin my day with thanksgiving and to remember that I am never alone. Depending on the season and the weather, when I open the doors, I experience something different. As the sun begins to rise, I watch the sky and look for indications of weather changes. God’s glorious creations cover the world and bring me joy. Looking at the sky and remembering the Creator tells me that I am never alone.

Bird watching is one of my favorite hobbies. The end table in my living room has several bird books that offer details about these winged creatures. Colorful photographs, migrating habits, descriptions of male and female traits, and more are found on each page. When I see a bird that I don’t recognize, I refer to the books. I listen for the sounds of chickadees, bluebirds, and woodpeckers as they begin the day by displaying their unique calls. Their songs remind me that I am never alone.

The past year was filled with health issues that changed the way I experienced life. Walking around the block every day became too painful. When I was asked to participate in events, I had to inquire about stairs and nearby parking. Frustration set in, and depression tried to take over my thoughts. My prayers for healing continued throughout the day and night. I changed doctors. New scans and tests were ordered. Although I was disappointed at some of the test results, I knew that God had a plan. I was never alone. God was always with me.

Pain continues to fill my body today, yet I’m not discouraged or heartbroken. Through my pain, I’m able to minister to other folks who are experiencing pain in their bodies. I want those people to know they are not alone. A listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and prayers can bring hope and peace.

There are various ways in which a person can feel lonely: The death of a loved one, losing a job, being left out of a conversation, not being able to participate in events due to health issues, living alone, or feeling isolated while in a crowd are a few scenarios where someone may feel alone.

When my husband travels for work, and I am the only person home, the house becomes quiet. I listen to the wind move branches, the birds calling their mates, and the children playing outside. Laughter fills the air. I’m not alone.

I’m thankful to go to God whenever I feel lonely. Scripture shares many verses about God being with us in every situation. The Bible says God will never leave us. Deuteronomy 31:8 shares that the Lord will go ahead of us. He will never abandon us.

How can we help others who might be experiencing loneliness? Taking time to pause and look someone in the eye when they speak, offering to visit the shut-ins in our church and neighborhood, sharing conversation and sharing prayers are a few ways to shine the love of Jesus Christ.

Let’s Pray:
Dear God, thank You for covering us with peace and comfort when we are lonely. Help us to remember that You are always with us. In every moment, your presence fills us with love. Thank you, Lord. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

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Song of Reflection #1: “Oh My Soul” by Casting Crowns. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2:
“God Only Knows” by King & Country. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3:
“Still Waters” by Leanna Crawford. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #4: “I Am Not Alone” by Kari Jobe. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Award-winning author Melissa Henderson writes inspirational messages sometimes humming with humor. With articles, devotions, and stories in print publications and online, Melissa shares her love for God and life. Some of the inspirations for her writing come from family life. 


Melissa and her husband Alan have been married for over 46 years. Their son Mike, and daughter-in-love Christine have blessed the family with two precious children: Rowan and Eden. These precious souls bring laughter, love, and many funny experiences, which can often be found in Melissa’s writing. The family motto is “It’s Always a Story with the Hendersons”.

Melissa is a member of ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers) South Carolina Lowcountry Chapter, AWSA (Advanced Writers and Speakers Association), CWFL (Christian Writers for Life), and many other organizations.

Melissa’s books for children include Licky the Lizard and Grumpy the Gator.

Melissa serves in Christian ministry as an Elder, Deacon, and Stephen Minister.

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Connect with Melissa:
Website: https://melissaghenderson.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MelissaHendersonAuthor
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Wednesday, December 18, 2024

Devotionals for the Heart: How to make a Christmas to remember


How to Experience the Wonder of Christ’s Presence This Christmas

A devotional by Sarah Cole

“After they had heard the king, they went on their way, and the star they had seen when it rose went ahead of them until it stopped over the place where the child was. When they saw the star, they were overjoyed. On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh.”— Matthew 2:9-11 (NIV)

We’ve all heard it said a thousand times that Christmas is the most wonderful time of year, but for many of us, the holiday rush only magnifies our grief, disappointment, and loneliness.

I’ve been on my own since my parents passed away several years ago. As an only child, I’m used to it, but I often feel like an orphan longing for somewhere to call home. While everyone else has a place to celebrate this month, I am content sitting before the fireplace with a bowl of popcorn and watching Hallmark Christmas movies.

I’ll admit that I sometimes lose sight of the Christmas story when mine disappoints me. Don’t get me wrong. I love shopping, sipping hot chocolate, attending parties, and singing carols. Still, when I feel like my Christmas plans are not enough, Jesus Christ reassures me that His presence always is.

Christmas is less about finding the perfect gift and more about encountering Jesus with the same wonder the three wise men experienced that cold, starry night.

Imagine the anticipation as they followed the star to Bethlehem on their journey to meet the newborn King promised centuries before. When they arrived with gold, frankincense, and myrrh, it was clear they spared no expense to honor Him.

As you reflect on that miraculous night, imagine being present at the manger worshipping Jesus. Dictionary.com defines the word "present" as:

1. a thing presented as a gift: Christmas presents.

2. focused on or involved in what one is doing at a particular moment.

Jesus Christ entered this world not so we could cross everything off our lists, but so we could receive His invitation to join His forever family.

If, like me, your heart longs for more this season, escape the holiday rat race for a moment and sit at the feet of Jesus. You’ll find you don’t have to be a wise man to make this a Christmas to remember.

Let’s Pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, when I compare my Christmas to everyone else’s, help me remember that the reason I celebrate is because Your Son (Jesus Christ) came to this Earth to be my Savior and Lord. When the world tempts me to focus on earthly treasures, Christ is the greatest gift of all, and the joy I feel when I enter His presence is always enough for me. In Jesus’s Name, I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Light A Candle” by AVALON. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Sarah Cole’s interest in writing began in grade school when her poem was published in the local paper. Since then, she has written for her college newspaper and two community newspapers where she wrote restaurant reviews and articles for their ‘best of’ spread.
 

Her experience as an administrator in the marketing field gave her the opportunity to write ads for a local business journal.

After a 20-year detour and a three-year season of adversity, God reignited her passion to write. Two divine appointments later, the short story she wrote about her father appeared in the St. Paul Almanac, and a short story about her cocker spaniel Gigi was published in Mysterious Ways by Guideposts. She believes her adversity was worth the lessons God taught her.

Sarah's devotionals have been published in David C. Cook’s The Quiet Hour and Devotions, The Secret Place by Judson Press, and Pray a Word a Day by Guideposts. Her short story will be featured in an upcoming book, Too Amazing For Coincidence, also to be published by Guideposts. To this day, Sarah smiles, pinches herself and gives God all the glory.

When she's not writing, she's enjoying her hobbies that include dog sitting, watching cooking shows and taking day trips.

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarah.cole.52

Monday, September 16, 2024

Devotionals for the Heart: Hope for your heart when you feel alone


When You Feel Alone

A devotional by Joy Beless

“Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. The troubles of my heart are enlarged; bring me out of my distresses. Consider my affliction and my trouble, and forgive all my sins.”—Psalm 25:16-18 (ESV)

Everyone feels lonely at some time in their life.

One of the loneliest seasons of my life was when I moved to the most populated city in the world. Surrounded by bustling crowds, everywhere I went seemed to amplify my loneliness. No one knew my name and I did not know theirs.

Loneliness can sneak up on us in the midst of transitions. Some transitions are physical, such as moving into different communities and churches. Transitions in life’s seasons can also generate feelings of loneliness, such as adult children leaving their home, the breakup of a close relationship, or the death of a loved one. Loneliness is a part of life and an emotion that blankets us without invitation.

According to a 2024 poll by the American Psychiatric Association, “30% of adults have felt lonely at least once a week and 10% say they are lonely every day.” Loneliness sneaks up on us when we do not feel emotionally or socially connected to others—even in their physical presence such as with roommates or a marriage—as well as when we are alone. With the prevalence of working remotely, watching church services online, and family units spread throughout different cities, community and emotional connectedness can be difficult to cultivate and maintain.

The times when I feel lonely and disconnected from others emotionally—and sometimes physically—God meets me in this place of despair. Like King David in the Psalms, we can pour out our hearts to God naming and identifying the specific emotions we are experiencing. The lament of David in Psalm 25 gives the example of naming the troubles of our hearts and offering them to God to carry our burdens. In Psalm 25:1-3, David names these words to describe what he is feeling and facing: lonely, afflicted, troubles, distresses, and sins. We can learn a lesson from this psalm: Our “aloneness” can be an invitation to seek God deeply and honestly. An intimate conversational prayer with God is similar to Psalm 62:8 (NIV) that reads, “Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.”

As we sort out the specifics of our circumstances that contribute to our feelings of loneliness, consider how God can be our refuge. Rather than allowing negative self-talk to cycle through our thoughts, we can picture ourselves curled up safe with God in His arms. We must remember that He is our shelter (Psalm 91:1). As we listen to God, is He guiding us to a truth about our situation or an action to take in our circumstances? Is there a place of wounding God desires to be present with us and bring healing? Perhaps the name of a person surfaces in this sacred space so that we can reach out and talk through what seems to be a wound or hurt in this time of need.

I remember praying to find a heart friend, day after day. I decided to pray “big” for a friend within walking distance of this big foreign-to-me city. At the same time, another woman was also praying the same prayer, and through circumstances, we reached out to each other. Not allowing our different nationalities to stand in the way, we became lifelong friends and sisters-in-Christ. Paul encourages us through the letter to the church in Corinth, “He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us (2 Corinthians 1:4 NLT).”

Aloneness is an opportunity to look to the Triune God: Our Heavenly Father (God) who created us in his image, Jesus Christ (God’s Son and our Savior), and the Holy Spirit (our counselor and guide). We can see God as the Lover of our soul, our Comforter, and the Giver of peace.

Remember what God says to us in Hebrews 13:5b (ESV): “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” He is with us and present, even in times of loneliness.

Let’s Pray:


Heavenly Father,

Thank You for understanding the emotion of loneliness and our need for the scriptures that point us to Your heart of compassion and love. We are grateful You are our place of refuge and comfort. As our society becomes increasingly digitalized, show us how to remain connected to one another as the Body of Christ. Give us the courage to reach out to others who also are struggling with loneliness.

In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection:
“You’re Not Alone” by Meredith Andrews. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Joy Beless is a worshipper of God and lover of people. 


A practicing Spiritual Director, she is a speaker for retreats and conferences and facilitates guided solitude retreats at the family ranch in North Texas.

A seasoned worship leader and songwriter, she frequently weaves worship, God’s Word and spiritual practices together. She is a chapel provider for a shelter for the houseless and a certified Grief and Trauma Healing Facilitator. Serving at global retreats for Kingdom-minded women delights her soul.

She has written for Global Trellis and Missio Nexus. She connects God’s Word with the reality of our daily in all the ups and downs.

Joy is married to Roger. They live in Coppell (Texas). Joy is called "JoJo" by her nine adorable grandchildren. She enjoys the outdoors and encourages flowers to grow in the Texas heat.

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Connect with Joy:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joy.beless
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joy.beless/
Website: www.joybeless.org

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Devotionals for the Heart: God never meant for you to go through life alone


Not Alone
A devotional by Tessa Huckstep

“Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.” 
–Hebrews 10:25 (KJV)

How often do you contemplate leaving your crazy life behind and living like a hermit for a few weeks?

As an introvert, I probably consider this scenario too often. Life is crazy. Socializing is exhausting. Wouldn’t I feel more renewed if I just stayed home all day on Sunday and read my Bible? I have heard lots of people say that they can get just as close to God by listening to a sermon online than they do in person.

But there is something missing when you simply watch a sermon online instead of going to church. There is something missing when you do not see and socialize with fellow believers. Actually, there is Someone missing.

As a believer, the Holy Spirit dwells inside your heart. He is part of the Trinity—God the Father, God the Son (Jesus Christ), and God the Holy Spirit.

The God of the universe is living inside your heart! The Holy Spirit is working within your heart to help you understand Scripture and comfort your soul. However, this wonderful, amazing phenomenon does not occur in your heart alone—the Holy Spirit lives inside each and every believer.

Consider this—when a group of believers come together, the Holy Spirit within one believer can be used to comfort and encourage another believer. Yes, you can grow spiritually from reading your Bible, praying, and listening to sermons—but not to the extent that God wishes for you. It is in God’s design for people to need other people. In fact, God says it is not good for us to be alone (Genesis 2:18). God designed us to need people. We were made to be comforted and to comfort others.

When we neglect to ‘assemble together’ or come together in fellowship as believers, we are missing a vital part of God’s will for our lives. First, we are not being comforted and encouraged as God intended for us to be. Second, we are not comforting and encouraging others as God intended for us to do.

Sometimes, it can be hard to work up the courage to bring comfort or encouragement to someone. We often feel as if we are drowning in our own troubles and needs, which makes it feel impossible for us to reach out to others to offer strength we don’t have. The truth is, dear reader, you don’t have the strength necessary to live the Christian life. But God does. According to the apostle Paul, God offers us His strength (Philippians 4:13).

Maybe it is just a smile. Or a simple “How are you?” that you can offer. God can take little offerings such as these and completely change another believer’s day. Remember, the Holy Spirit is living inside of you. He is working through you. By encouraging another believer, you might just feel encouraged yourself!

The Holy Spirit—our gift from Heaven—longs to comfort and encourage you as well as other believers. This is why we come together as a church—not the church building, but the church people. This is why the early church leaders fought so hard to establish the church. We were not created to do the Christian life alone.

Let’s Pray: Dear Lord, thank You for giving us the Holy Spirit to offer us comfort and encouragement. Please give us Your strength that we may fulfill Your will for our daily lives. Help us to submit to the Holy Spirit that we may be used to comfort other believers. Lead us to perform the good works you have prepared for us. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

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Author Bio:

Tessa Huckstep grew up in rural Illinois to Christian parents and has known Jesus personally since the age of five. 


She is currently attending community college and majoring in elementary education. In the future, she plans to teach in the public school, hoping to bring the love of God with her.

God’s dream of Tessa becoming a writer was revealed to her at the age of sixteen and she hasn’t been able to stop since. Though she has not yet been published, Tessa enjoys writing historical romance novels and speculative fiction.

Tessa believes God loves stories, and through her writing, she wants to reveal the happily ever after God dreams of for each of his daughters—one where Jesus is the knight in shining armor.

Tessa loves all things Georgian/Regency, needlework, and dainty teacups of every size. When she isn’t writing or studying for exams, Tessa can be found in the kitchen with more flour in her hair and on the floor than in the mixing bowl, though the mess is always half the fun!

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Connect with Tessa:
Blog: https://beautifulbeloved937002841.wordpress.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beloved.bookworm/
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/101227159

Monday, January 4, 2021

Devotionals for the Heart: How to survive loneliness and thrive


Gaining a new perspective by tapping into innocence
A devotional by Jessica Brodie

Do you ever get lonely? I used to struggle with loneliness a lot, especially in my teens and twenties. It still rears its ugly head on occasion.

When God created the first man, He knew right away Adam needed a companion. As it says in Genesis 2:18 (NIV), “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” From Adam, God made Eve—a suitable companion, a woman to join with him as “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).

I imagine God knew Adam would get lonely with no “kindred spirit,” no fellow human to talk with and share life with. Sometimes, when we’re lonely, upset, or grumpy, a companion is exactly what we need too. Sometimes it takes spending quality time with another person to reset. Often, that’s a spouse or close friend, and it works great.

But we humans can all too quickly lure each other into our own negative mindsets. The “grumpies” can spread like a virus—even worse than COVID. Think about the times you’ve been in a cranky mood and spent time with a friend who loves to gossip. Maybe it’s a laugh at first, but soon you start to feel worse. Crankiness begets crankiness.

That’s when I’ve found spending time with those seemingly “immune” to the grumpies—little kids, cute baby animals, or super-positive ray-of-sunshine friends—can be a big help. The innocence of children can be a balm to many a soul. Perhaps that’s why Jesus was indignant when his disciples rebuked parents for bringing Jesus little children for a prayer.

“He said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.’ And He took the children in His arms, placed His hands on them and blessed them” (Mark 10:14b-16).

Animals, too, can be the same kind of balm. They can sense pain, sickness, and sadness, certainly. But they have a beautiful way of coping with it: they seem to rest in it, accepting the moment with peace.

We can often learn a lot from animals. They were created prior to and independently of humans, given the blessing of God, and instructed to “be fruitful and increase in number” (Genesis 1:22). Clearly they are of value to God—He enjoys them! He made them!

Other people are great. But there’s a unique and treasured beauty to the time we spend with those whose hearts are not tarnished by the world. Spending time with children or animals helps refresh our souls and bring a new perspective on life. Their innocence, authenticity, and simple appreciation of life can be infectious in a very good way.

If you’re struggling in life right now—whether it’s a bad day or a rotten season in your life, whether it’s mental illness or just a temporary period of “the blues”—think about ways you can cultivate that perspective of sunshine and innocence in your life.

Even in COVID, there might be volunteer opportunities at shelters or ways you can serve in your church with young kids. And if not, consider a FaceTime session with a relative or friend with littles, or funny animal videos on YouTube.

Today’s topic, gaining a new perspective by tapping into innocence, is one of 10 included in the free eBook I created to help people shrug off their worries and center themselves in the Lord. Called A God-Centered Life: 10 Faith-Based Practices When You’re Feeling Anxious, Grumpy, or Stressed, the book is FREE for anyone who signs up for my weekly blog. Learn more and get your copy here. (If you are already a blog subscriber but haven’t gotten your copy, just email meand I’ll send it to you.)

Let’s Pray:
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you so much for the fresh perspective you enable us to enjoy through children, animals, nature, and others who can so quickly brighten any cloudy day. Help us remember that joy is not an emotion but the hope we find in Christ, but also help us understand that choosing happiness—choosing to banish negativity and learning to be content in all circumstances—is a step each of us can make each day. Thank you for walking with us in all things. Help us shine Your light in the world. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Brodie is an award-winning Christian journalist, author, blogger, editor, and devotional writer. For the last decade, she’s been the editor of the South Carolina United Methodist Advocate, the oldest newspaper in Methodism, which has won 118 journalism awards during her tenure.


She is the author of Feed My Sheep: A 40-Day Devotional to Develop a Heart for Hunger Ministry (2019) and More Like Jesus: A Devotional Journey (2018) and editor of Stories of Racial Awakening: Narratives on Changed Hearts and Lives of South Carolina United Methodists (2018), all from her newspaper’s Advocate Press.

She is a seasoned speaker and contributor to Crosswalk, Christianity.com, and the United Methodist News Service, among many others. She has a weekly faith blog at JessicaBrodie.com and is part of the team at Wholly Loved Ministries.

Represented by Bob Hostetler of The Steve Laube Agency, she is seeking a publishing contract for her two contemporary women’s fiction novels, The Memory Garden and Tangled Roots. The Memory Garden won the 2018 Genesis Award for Contemporary Fiction from American Christian Fiction Writers, and Tangled Roots placed in Contemporary Romance at the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference in 2019.

Married, Brodie has four children and stepchildren and lives in Lexington, South Carolina.

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Connect with Jessica:
Website: https://www.jessicabrodie.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/JessicaJBrodie
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorjessicajbrodie
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicajbrodie/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessicajbrodie/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/shiningthelightjessicabrodie/

Saturday, June 20, 2020

Interview with Amberly Neese (Part 1 of 2) about "The Belonging Project"


Welcome Amberly Neese to the blog today! 

She's here to, via this pre-made interview from Audra Jennings (publicist), tell you all about her book, The Belonging Project - Women's Bible Study Guide with Leader Helps: Finding Your Tribe and Learning to Thrive.

Gentlemen: I'm sorry, but this one is for the ladies! Feel free to share this two-part interview with the women in your life. Ladies: Today's post is Part 1 of 2 and tomorrow, we will wrap this up with Part 2 of 2.

Enjoy!

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A Message from Audra Jennings, publicist: 

The pursuit of what the world perceives as the “perfect life” leaves us feeling depleted, disappointed, dissatisfied, and disconnected. If we would be open and honest with those around us, we would discover we are not the only ones tired of being lonely and left out at work, home, church, and online. God created each and every one of us with a hunger for true community, deeper connection with him, and friendships that are greater than “likes” on social media.

As she was touring the nation, speaker and comedian Amberly Neese found this sense of loneliness and disconnect to be present for women across the board—single or married, rich or poor, with or without children. That is the reason she set out to write The Belonging Project: Finding Your Tribe and Learning to Thrive


In this four-week study, Neese provides biblical and practical help for cultivating meaningful relationships that glorify God through an examination of the many “one another” scriptures throughout the New Testament. 

She groups more than fifty of them into themes in order to lead readers on an exploration of how to love, serve, build up, strengthen and forgive one another.

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Part 1 of an Interview with Amberly Neese, 
author of The Belonging Project:

Question: Tell us a little bit about the central theme of your new Bible study, The Belonging Project.


Amberly Neese: The Belonging Project is the exploration of the New Testament as it pertains to biblical community. God has designed us to live in mutually beneficial relationships and has given us the blueprints to do so in His Word. This four-week study is designed to encourage, empower, and equip participants to thrive in the community to which God has called us.

I started writing The Belonging Project because as I toured the nation speaking and doing comedy, I just kept hearing women say that they were lonely. Single or married, rich or poor, with a zip code of kids or not, women are feeling disconnected and depleted. Technology has provided us a million opportunities to “see” into the lives of others, but it seems we are actually IN one another’s lives so much less.

To address some of those issues, I explored the more than fifty uses of the term “one another” in the New Testament. Phrases such as “love one another,” “pray for one another,” and “spur one another on toward love and good deeds” are incredible puzzle pieces in the full picture of what biblical community is designed to look like.

Question: Why is community often difficult for women to find and maintain?


Amberly Neese: Women are busy—overextended with activities, responsibilities, and obligations. Community takes intentional prioritization and a desire to grow alongside others. But it is no easy trick—schedules are full, the pull of busyness can be a real struggle, and community takes time and availability.

Availability also means we must bring our authentic selves to relationships, and that is not easy. Many of us have created a facade of “I’m okay,” but such inauthenticity undermines finding a tribe and learning to thrive. If we are not okay, we should have a safe space to share that, but we also should be creating that safe space for others.

I also think we can get caught up in “Pinterest-envy” or the desire to keep up with the Pinterest boards. It may not be that we strive for every aspect of our lives to be picture perfect, but mostly, we are trying to keep up with our perception of the lives of others. That envy can block us from seeing who people truly are and take our eyes off Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Only when we focus on Him and ask Him to use us to bless and serve others will we drop the envy and start living and thriving in authentic relationships.

Question: What are the four categories of “one another” sayings from the New Testament you examine in The Belonging Project?


Amberly Neese: The phrase “one another” is derived from the Greek word allelon, which means “one another . . . each other; mutual,” or “reciprocally.” Appearing more than one hundred times in the New Testament, this concept forms the basis of all true Christian community and has direct impact on our witness to the world. As we read in John 13:35 (NIV), “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

In The Belonging Project, we examine some of these “one anothers,” grouping them into four themes:


Find One Another
Fellowship with One Another
Forgive One Another
Fortify One Another 

In each week of the study, we focus on one particular theme and explore relevant “one another” scriptures and related passages to help give us clarity on how we might live a life in a community that is both fulfilling and fun. Together, we will dive into how to handle life when we feel dejected, disconnected, and dissatisfied so that we can find our tribe and learn to thrive.

Question: Typically, in the church when we hear the word “fellowship,” we think the word “meal” should follow. What is true fellowship within our community?

Amberly Neese: True fellowship is when believers are willing to celebrate together, mourn together, support one another, love one another enough to speak the truth in love, and hold one another accountable. Such living is not easy, but it is rewarding and fosters spiritual growth in all involved.

In Romans 12:13, we are told to “share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” I am glad that Paul used the word practice when it comes to hospitality, because I am still practicing. There are people in my life who find great joy and fulfillment in opening their homes, hands, and tables to people, no matter the hour. Although I love when people come to visit and break bread with us, I need advance notice—and that is not hospitality in its purest form; it is the desire to impress others.

I used to believe that hospitality was limited to opening one’s home to others, but I have come to realize that, indeed, this is only a fraction of hospitality. Hospitality can be defined as serving others with love and without complaint, taking on the expense and tasks with joy.

Question: What is something about forgiveness and grace that we often misunderstand or get wrong? How does humility fit in? 

Amberly Neese: Forgiveness has the word “give” in it. It is a gift to both the one forgiven and the one forgiving. We are called to forgive one another, knowing that we will eventually hurt one another as imperfect people. It is to make right. 

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same— it takes one to forgive and two to reconcile. Forgiveness does not require reconciliation; sometimes it is not possible or practical, but forgiveness is always the right thing to do.

Grace is the next step, not just make right, but make better! Grace can be defined as “undeserved favor.” 

If we continually recognize the grace given to us in Christ Jesus, humility certainly follows, and relationships with others more easily exist. Grace is what Jesus modeled for us and what God extends to us. God does not treat us as our sins deserve (Psalm 103:10). 

Instead, we are given grace. We sometimes focus on what we deserve because we work hard, go to Bible study, or because we declined a cookie. We rarely focus on the fact we deserved condemnation and instead we were given love. We deserved death, and we were given life.

Question: What are some ways readers can creatively come together to do the study as a group, even if they aren’t able to meet in person?


Amberly Neese: First of all, Zoom and other technologies like it are a great way to connect. Schedule a time each week to discuss the study at length, covering the questions at the end of each lesson and share them with others in the study. In addition, one could easily watch the videos, complete the study, then discuss the answers over the phone with others in their lives. The hard part is finding a tribe with which to do the study.

Ask God to show you how you can add to your community of friends, even at this time of quarantine. Pray that God would prompt you to think of others who might be hungry for connection and would benefit from such a study. Call at least one person in your church and or neighborhood and ask how you can pray for him/her. Pray with him/her on the phone and ask if they would like to be part of The Belonging Project with you. 

Make a list of people who might be good additions to your community of friends and to the study. Include people from your church, workplace, and neighborhood or area. Pray for each of them—not only that they might become your friend but also that God would bless their study of his Word.

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Get Involved:

The Belonging Project - Online Bible Study Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1142464136110827/

For more details and to reserve your spot in one of the small group discussions,
go to https://www.amberlyneese.com/bible-study.


The Belonging Project - A Bible Study of the “one another” sayings by Amberly Neese
https://youtu.be/-MtYuN40XRg

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Buy Amberly's book, The Belonging Project on 
Amazon or Barnes and Noble

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Blurb for The Belonging Project:

Discover true community. 

Has the pursuit of the “perfect life” left you feeling depleted, disappointed, dissatisfied, and disconnected? Are you tired of being lonely and left out at work, home, church, and online? Are you hungry for true community, deeper connection with God, and friendships that are greater than just “likes” on social media? Are you ready for real connections with those around you?
In this four-week Bible study, Amberly Neese provides biblical and practical help for cultivating meaningful relationships that glorify God through an exploration of four “one another” sayings in the New Testament:
  • Love one another 
  • Serve one another
  • Build up and strengthen one another
  • Forgive one another
In her trademark style, Amberly combines Bible study with delightful humor to create a refreshing and engaging experience that will encourage and equip women to pursue deeper relationships and true belonging.
Other components for the Bible study, available separately, include a DVD.
Bible Study Features:
  • A shorter, four-week study is ideal for in-between or busy times.
  • Accessible and friendly format.
  • DVD features the amazing Amberly Neese, who masterfully combines solid Bible teaching and delightfully funny humor (in four 20-minute segments).
  • Inspires and encourages women to pursue deeper relationships and true belonging for a more fulfilled, purposeful life.
  • Helps women grow in their capacity to love, serve, and forgive.
  • Study guide with leader helps includes group session guides, discussion questions, prayers, video viewer guides, and more.

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Author Bio: Amberly Neese is a speaker, humorist, and encourager with a passion for “GRINspiring” others.



As a featured speaker for the Aspire Women’s Events and the main host/comedienne for Marriage Date Night, two popular Christian events that tour nationally, she enjoys touching the hearts and minds and funny bones of people all over the country.

The Bible says that laughter is good medicine, and she has found it’s also like glue—helping the truths of God’s Word to “stick.” Neese loves to remind women of the power and hope found in Scripture. Through a flair for storytelling and a love for Jesus, she candidly opens up her story alongside God’s Word to encourage others in their walk with Him. She is also the author of the women’s Bible study, The Belonging Project.

With a master’s degree from Biola University, Neese serves as an adjunct professor at Grand Canyon University. She and her husband, Scott, have two teenagers and live in Prescott, Arizona, where they enjoy the great outdoors, the Food Network, and all things Star Wars.

For more information, visit her website www.amberlyneese.com. She is also active on Facebook (@Amberly Neese – Comedian/Speaker), Twitter (@amberlyneese), and Instagram (@amberlyneese).

Monday, April 6, 2020

Devotionals for the Heart: God's love that was shown through a family cat


What our family cat taught us about God’s unconditional love
A devotional by Jessica Brodie

“You were my second mommy, the sweetest girl ever, and I miss you so much.”

The words, scrawled by my daughter in a tear-stained letter to our late cat, Teetee, broke my heart.

We lost our kitty-daughter, Teetee, a couple of weeks ago after her short battle with cancer. She was old—almost 17—and her passing was relatively quick and in the night at our home, a blessing for which I am grateful.

Still, our home is not the same. I still imagine her in the shadows, out of the corner of my eye as I walk from the bedroom to the kitchen… still envision her lazing happily in her favorite sunshine spot, still expect her to come prowling when I get out the cheddar cheese—her favorite snack—for breakfast.

Teetee was the absolute best cat ever—not a pet, in truth, but the Real Mom of the House. The kids might call me “Mom,” but Teetee and I knew she was really the one in charge of everyone’s welfare. After all, she was the one who knew when someone was sick, often even before we did. She’d sense the illness and come to sit by us, try her best to sleep on our head, even, if we’d let her.

If someone was sad, or worried, she’d scooch close and snuggle in, like she could somehow send her “everything will be fine” state of mind directly into us.

And she’d been with us through so much!

I found Teetee at the adoption center of a pet store back in 2003, shortly after my kitty Roxanne passed away. I was brokenhearted back then and certain I wasn’t ready for a cat for a long, long time … and then I happened by Teetee, a tiny calico relaxing among the other, more antsy felines. I couldn’t resist asking to hold her, and she came to me willingly, sniffed at me curiously, turned in a circle in my arms, and promptly fell asleep. (In other words: She picked me.)

Teetee sat with me as I sobbed during a long period of infertility; it felt like she was saying, “I understand. I can’t have babies either. Everything will be fine.”

Then, after my “miracle son” was born two years later, she’d watch me nurse, change diapers, and rock my little one long into the wee hours. We’d exchange knowing looks, Teetee and I—“We’ve got this,” we’d think at each other.

Two years and another baby, a daughter, later, and Teetee and I had settled into a pattern. She’d watch them carefully, look at me mournfully when one was wailing or tugging at her tail. We’d commiserate, mom to mom; the toddler phase was tough! She’d let them do most anything to her, too, tolerating my son’s heavy pats and allowing him to lug her here and there. She’d let my daughter dress her up with princess cloaks and baby blankets and push her around in a baby stroller.

She was with me again as I’d despair on lonely nights, through an out-of-state move, through the dissolution of my marriage and a period as a single mom, through times when I’d wonder how we’d all eat or get through. “Everything will be fine,” she’d tell me in her kitty way. Of course, she was right.

When Matt and I fell in love and planned to marry, and he came over one night to watch a movie, she claimed him as part of the family, too. She leapt onto the couch, bypassed me, and settled right down on his belly, placing one paw delicately on his chest. “You’re in,” she was saying.

As the kids went from toddler to elementary-age and now young teens, she handled their mood swings far better than I, cuddling with my daughter when my daughter would get furious with me over some perceived slight, calming her with her kitty “everything’s fine” vibe.

Now, all these years later, she’s gone, and the house feels so empty without her. I miss her cuddles and purrs, the way she’d meow “helllloooo” in the early mornings trying to wake us up, her peaceful basks in sunny spots, even her cat hair that covered every surface like putty.

She loved us fiercely. And we loved her.

Looking back, I see the love of Jesus Christ shining throughout her whole life… the way she was always there in our toughest moments; the way she never, ever left us even when we wailed or acted sassy; the way she kept us focused on the after, letting us know everything would be fine. Now I realize what she was saying: Relax. God has you, sweet angst-filled human. Don’t fuss or fear.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14:27 NIV).

Rest in peace, sweet Teetee. Thank you for your love, for always being there in the toughest moments, and for showing us the unconditional love of Jesus in the way you loved us.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Brodie is an award-winning Christian novelist, journalist, editor, blogger, and writing coach and the recipient of the 2018 American Christian Fiction Writers Genesis Award for her novel, The Memory Garden.

She is also the editor of the South Carolina United Methodist Advocate, the oldest newspaper in Methodism, and a member of the Wholly Loved Ministries team.

Learn more about her fiction and read her faith blog at http://jessicabrodie.com.

Thursday, December 12, 2019

12 Days of Christmas Book Giveaways: Jill Kemerer's Christmas story

Let's welcome my author friend Jill Kemerer to the blog!

She's my guest today who's agreed to let me give away an e-book of her Christmas story, Sugarplums and Second Chances: A Lake Endwell Romance Novella.

Meet Jill:
Author Bio:

Jill Kemerer is a Publishers Weekly bestselling author of contemporary Christian romance novels with Harlequin™ Love Inspired. A sports mom for over a decade, Jill also wrote Game On: The Christian Parents’ Sports Survival Guide to help parents deal with the ups and downs of their children’s sports.

Jill is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers, and served as the president of Maumee Valley Romance Authors, Inc. in 2019. She contributed to Woman’s World Magazine, Guideposts: The Best Angel Stories 2015, Chicken Soup for the Soul: It’s Christmas! and the short story and recipe collection,
  A Recipe for Romance.

Her books have been finalists in the Frasier Contest and the Genesis contest, and she graduated magna cum laude with a bachelor degree in electrical engineering.

Jill’s essentials include coffee, M&Ms, fluffy animals, stacks of books and long nature walks. She resides in Ohio with her husband and two almost-grown children. 

Jill loves connecting with readers, so please visit her website, jillkemerer.com.

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Here's the blurb and cover for Jill's book:

Are some mistakes beyond redemption?

When former NFL star, Chase McGill, invites Courtney Trudesta, the widow of his former teammate, to spend Christmas with him and his son in Lake Endwell, he simply wants to repay her for the weekly letters she sent while he was in prison. He didn't expect to fall for her.

Chase regrets his past and knows it will take more than sugarplums and wishful thinking to heal Courtney's lonely heart. But with a dose of small-town charm and plenty of Christmas cheer, they might have a second chance at happiness ... with each other.

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Monday, November 4, 2019

Devotionals for the Heart: Loneliness


How my relationship with Jesus got rid of my loneliness
A devotional by Jessica Brodie


“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.”—1 John 4:7 (NIV)

Friendship was always a huge struggle for me. I was shy, I moved around a lot, I was a little socially awkward, and I had issues going on in my family that created a ton of turmoil within me—perhaps these are many of the reasons.

Still, it left me lonely. I never had that one “best friend,” and while I would make friends, I never had a close inner circle. As I became an adult, I’d hear about other women getting together to go shopping or grab lunch or do a girls’ weekend together, and a pang of envy would stab in my heart. What’s “wrong” with me? Why aren’t I likable?

Friendship always seemed out of reach for me. I felt so deeply isolated—on an island of my own. I was certain I was the only one going through this because everyone else I knew at least had a single friend or two. But me? Nope. I’d start to make friendships but never got past what felt like an invisible wall that blocked me from real depth. My best friends were in the pages of books I’d read.

Over the years, life happened. I had children. My relationship with the Lord deepened and grew.

And one day I looked up and realized I wasn’t lonely anymore.

Wait—what? I still didn’t have close female friends. On the surface, life hadn’t changed very much. What was the difference?


Jesus. That was the difference. It wasn’t that I didn’t know Jesus before. I believed wholeheartedly. But along the lines, belief became relationship, which is quite different.  And now, because I had a relationship with Jesus, somehow I didn’t feel lonely anymore. I felt complete.

It’s like before, I was always wanting to be a closed and perfect circle, fully connected, spinning round and around, but somehow there was a little opening, an open wound, in my circle, and all that love was spilling out like water from a hose. That’s why I never felt complete.

I didn’t realize it, but I think I’d been looking for my “other half” my whole life, that I firmly believed there was another person out there who would complete me, whether in a love relationships or a friendship—like that Jerry Maguire movie (“You complete me”).


But Jesus closed that hole, mended that gash, and with that my soul felt right. Jesus completed me.

With this realization came another, more painful one: how much of my energy had been going into myself. Ouch!

When I became centered on my Lord, I stopped being self-centered. With that, not only did I feel a million times better, but something magical happened: I began to attract friends like bees to honey!

You know that old saying, “To make a friend you’ve got to be a friend?” I used to think that meant acts of service or giving up all my time, but those can be superficial. What I’ve realized is that being a friend means giving yourself in love—full-on, sacrificial love.

Just like Jesus loved us.

Love means sacrifice. It means living out the greatest commandments, which Jesus told us are to love God with all your heart, mind, and soul and to love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-40). Or, as I saw condensed on a T-shirt a few years ago: God first, others second, self last.

That was an impossible task before I had a true and deep relationship with Jesus, but somehow from that deep relationship with Jesus, everything else miraculously fell into place.

Because of that relationship with Jesus I knew how to love. I could love friends. I could love my children. I could love my husband. Fully and completely.

Paul wrote in Philippians 4:10-13 that he had learned the secret to true contentment: that he can do all things through Christ who gives him strength. I’ve learned the same. My relationship with Christ is the only thing that gave me the inner strength to overcome my loneliness.

And when his light shines into that lonely darkness, it obliterates the darkness.

Today, I’m not lonely in the least. Whether I’m in a crowd or I’m by myself, it is well with my soul.

Jesus is love. Because I now have that love in my heart I’m no longer lonely, and now I can love others back, too, the right way. The Jesus way.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Brodie is an award-winning Christian novelist, journalist, editor, blogger, and writing coach and the recipient of the 2018 American Christian Fiction Writers Genesis Award for her novel, The Memory Garden.



She is also the editor of the South Carolina United Methodist Advocate, the oldest newspaper in Methodism, and a member of the Wholly Loved Ministries team.

Learn more about her fiction and read her faith blog at http://jessicabrodie.com/shiningthelight.

Monday, August 26, 2019

Devotionals for the Heart: Loneliness


Loneliness and The Art of Conversation

A devotional by Glynis Becker

“I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever; that is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it does not see Him or know Him, but you know Him because He abides with you and will be in you.” 
–John 14:16-17 (NASB)

I am an introvert. Like many other introverts, I enjoy time with friends, but often find myself in need of time alone afterward to wind down and recharge. I think of myself as kind of a loner and maybe you do too. Not everyone is great at small talk and sometimes conversations, even with friends, can be hard to start.

Last weekend was busy for me. I connected in different settings with several different groups of people who I’d known for a long time who I know deeply and who know me well. People who are long-time acquaintances and people I’ve just met. As I reflect on these relationships, it occurred to me and surprised me how much I need to interact with people on all these different levels.

Each of my conversations shared something of myself and in turn, shared something of the other person. Some of those conversations were heavy and heartbreaking. Others were light and filled with laughter. I felt renewed and recharged from that exhausting weekend in a way that I haven’t for a long time. I saw how that broad scope of sharing space with others was good for me and is a lot like how Jesus Christ did ministry.

Jesus spoke with small and large crowds. He spoke one-on-one. He spoke to people who were interested in what He had to say and to those who were not. He spoke with those who agreed with Him and those who didn’t.

Some of His conversations with people were hard, like with the rich young man in the Bible story found in Mark 10:17-22. Jesus told the man that he needed to sell his possessions and follow Jesus. Some conversations lifted people’s burdens like the Samaritan woman at the well, which is another Bible story found in John 4:1-30. The woman went away from that time with Him feeling seen, understood, and loved.

Each time when Jesus spoke to someone, they were a little different afterward because of the words He shared.

Research is still being done on how changes in technology and culture have impacted not just the way we speak to each other, but also the opportunity and willingness to engage with others. Loneliness is an epidemic in our society and many people are starved for connection.

Don’t we who are Christians know the antidote to loneliness is the love of Jesus Christ? Shouldn’t we be spreading that message as far and wide as we can?

Actions do speak loudly. We absolutely must act like followers of Christ. But don’t forget that we also need to speak the words He gives us. We can only do that when we’re willing to step out of our comfort zones and have a conversation. You never know what eternal ripples those words might cause.

Let’s Pray: Father God, give us Your words to speak to those we meet today: Our friends, our family and strangers. You have shown us Your great love. Let us share that love with the whole world so that others may believe and follow You. In Your Son Jesus Christ’s Name we pray, Amen.

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Author Bio:
Glynis Becker writes devotions and inspirational fiction, hoping someday to have a published novel on her resume.

She has co-written several screenplays, including the film Sinking Sand, available on DVD and digital streaming.

Glynis, whose childhood was spent all over the country as an Air Force brat, has called South Dakota home for many years, along with her husband and two teenage children.

When she’s not writing or reading, she is watching more television than she should and crocheting. You can find her at www.glynisbecker.com.

Monday, August 13, 2018

Devotionals for the Heart: God's Unfailing Love for You


Unfailing Love
A devotional by Tammy Karasek

Think of the many ways God daily shows his love for us. When you are going through a period or season where you think he’s not there, you need only take a moment to pause and look around.

One of my favorite things to do when I’m in that situation is to take a journal or notebook and go sit somewhere, preferably outside or near a window. I love a coffee shop or location where many people will be coming and going. I then pray for God to clear my mind of all those things on my perpetual To Do list for this short time. Can anyone relate to that long list? I then thank God for the things he is about to show me. I suggest you give this a try. Find a location with a great view and lots of busyness. Pray. Then sit back and watch.

Look out the window at the sky. Is it bright with sun or gloomy with rain clouds? You realize God made both of those for us, right? He made the sun to warm us up as well as to bring a smile to our faces. Yet he also made the rainy days to water our surroundings—the trees, grass, flowers, and bodies of water. Without those things, we would not have shade, fruits from the trees, grass for animals to eat, flowers to enjoy and water for so many reasons. He thought of so many big and little details. That’s love. Write your thoughts in your journal about that.

Next, look around where you are sitting and notice the people. Some may be sitting alone and others may be with one or several friends. Do you see God’s love in both of these situations? The person alone may be taking a break to rest or have food. The group may be catching up with each other and enjoying one another’s’ friendship. God created all of those things—rest, nourishment and fellowship because he knew we would need all of them. That’s love. Write about a time or times when you have experienced these things.

Now, back to the point that I made above—feeling like God isn’t there. When there are times when I feel like God is so far away, I make myself do this exercise. I begin to ask God why I feel it. And I close out the chatter in my mind and wait for the Holy Spirit to show me where these feelings are coming from. Once I get my mind quiet and shift my attitude a bit, I begin to see that God’s love is still all around me. It’s in the sky, the grass, the little girl swinging her feet as she sits with her mommy drinking hot cocoa at the coffee shop. Aren’t whipped cream mustaches the best? It’s when I remember the things that God has brought me through. That’s love. Write those in your journal.

People will come and go in our lives. People will both uplift and tear us down. But God will never do this because of his rich, deep love. Though we may not be the best we can be with our attitudes, actions or words, God still loves us. No matter what we do or don’t do. That’s real love.

“Let your face shine on your servant, save me in your unfailing love.” 
~Psalm 31:16 (NIV)

Remember when you feel very distant from God, it is you that has moved away—not God.

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Author Bio:

You’ll find Tammy seeing humor and causing laughter in every aspect of life. Tammy’s past filled with bullying and criticism is the driving force of her passion to always encourage others and share with them the Reason to smile. 

She’s been blissfully wedded to her college sweetheart, Larry, for 36 years. She is a mom to their grown daughter Kristen and wrapped around the paw of a little puppy named Hattie.

She’s the President of Cross N Pens Christian Writers and a member of ACFW. 

She will be published in the 2018 Divine Moments book – Cool-nary Moments.

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Connect with Tammy:
Blog - http://www.tammykarasek.com
Twitter - https://twitter.com/tickledpinktam
Email - tickledpinktammy@gmail.com

Sunday, July 8, 2018

Summer Stories: Make Me Over


Interview with Jacqueline Gillam Fairchild, author of Make Me Over:

Alexis: What was the inspiration behind your story’s title “Make Me Over”?

Jackie: It has a double meaning. Hallie makes over client’s homes and yet to be on The Bachelorette TV show, she had to be made over. And don’t we all want a bit of a makeover?

Alexis: Who is Hallie Great? Describe her looks, personality, motivation, and role in this story.

Jackie: Hallie could be any number of people you know. Somewhere in her 40’s and someone who has devoted her life to her career. Her classic business suits she wore as a young interior designer at Greats Department store are still her uniform today. Still severe, conservative, and usually black. But now they are a little bigger and it goes without saying her heels are a lot lower and wider. Her looks are secondary to her career so her hair is basic and often tied back. When she is made over, her hair goes from dull to highlighted and styled. And as she is forced to join weight watchers her lumps slowly melt away. And there is actually a very soft girl that had been hiding in a rather hard woman’s body. As she becomes prettier she becomes vulnerable. She also learns that dressing herself in wonderful clothes is almost as much fun as decorating a room. And that when she wears lovely garments she feels better.

Alexis: 
How did Hallie become a megastar interior designer?

Jackie: Work, work and then more work. She started early and never stopped. She learned the retail business inside and out through the family megastore and when she was ready to pick her specialty she knew it would be the design world.

And she slowly worked her way up. And, like anything you do, the more you do it, the better you become. Of course, she had the eye and the desire to stick with it and work long hard hours. She was a star designer at Great’s Department store.

When they went under she literally got in her car and started to go west to find a spot to open her own business. She stopped in the middle of the middle of nowhere in one of those magazine perfect little towns and found an old shop front for sale, fell in love and bought it.

And when the next store went on the market, she bought that one too. On and on until she owned the entire block. She knew if she offered a lovely mousetrap...people would come because people everywhere want wonderful things in their homes.

They want homes that look like the magazines or the movies. And yet they can never seem to pull this together on their own. So of course, she would be a success. She was in an area with less shopping than most and offering a wonderful service: the ability to have your dream house or dream room. And that is the designer’s ticket to success. 


Alexis: What does Hallie love about making over homes for her clients?

Jackie: Your home is an extension of you. Your happiest place, your most secure place, and your most secret place. It is where you can be who you truly are. And Hallie loves the privilege of helping people express their personality where they live.

She loves showing them the most beautiful and outrageous or classic items and fabrics and all bits and pieces of décor that they would never ever find on their own. These are the resources designers have available to them.

And she loves showing people the different floor plans every room has and how the right one will work for their lifestyle. And sometimes this is the hardest part for someone to do. They can find items they love but they can’t put them all together. Each room has many good options but really only one great one. Hallie gives this to people.

She thrives on taking what you already own and want to keep regardless the reason, and adding to it in such a way that the new room, or rooms, are very dear to you, not to mention breathtaking. And with the addition of whatever it is you have kept, the right out of the showroom look never happens. The rooms are simply an expression of their owners, only usually with a bit of the wow factor.

Alexis: Why did Hallie’s friend sign her up to be the next Bachelorette?

Jackie: Jinx tends to meddle in all the best ways. But she also realizes Hallie has it all—almost.

Hallie is lonely. And Jinx also knows Hallie will never do a thing about it. Hallie has a hard time admitting there is a piece of the puzzle missing. As a matter of fact, Hallie and Amy are both resigned to their single status. They both know it is the price they paid to be on the top of their game.

The long hours spent working didn’t seem to include going out and socializing. And as the years slid by, it is harder and harder to meet someone. The opportunities just aren’t there, and there is also that herd of young lovely’s right behind you.

In my new series, Greater Expectations, I explore this further. Four women all stunning and all semi-happy chip in to join a very pricey dating agency. Their plan is to pool their best qualities and come up with a composite person and then divvy up the men. Of course, dating agencies have their problems and this new series addresses them all.

Alexis: Is this the same real-life TV show that airs on the ABC network in real-life? If so, what about that reality dating show inspired you to write this fiction story?

Jackie: I love the Bachelor and Bachelorette shows and watch them faithfully, but I also have wondered what if the bachelorette was a little bit older?

Maybe not quite so picky, and certainly past her first blush. And lonely. What would she do? So many of the drop-dead bachelorettes on the show are so gorgeous and young etc. that finding a companion should be relatively easy. And when it isn’t, I just say if they think this is hard, wait until they are older.

Alexis: Why doesn’t Hallie watch TV? How does being The Bachelorette change that?

Jackie: How many people do you know who not only are workaholics but love their work? I know many, maybe because I started in the interior design business.

These are the people who live and breathe their work and their spare time is spent on subjects that are related to their beloved work. For example, when my husband and I plan a trip to escape, it is usually a trade show for our business Her Majesty’s English Tea Room and Fairchild’s. It is rare we say let’s just go somewhere that does not tie in with work.

When I was in the design business I read all the trade magazines and all the shelter magazines like Arc Digest. It never dawned on me to read the local newspaper. As a result, I was out of the loop on what was going on in the real world. But I could tell you the design details of a new Brunschwig fabric or the new stain finishes from some obtuse furniture maker. Well, that is how Hallie is when it comes to TV—it never dawns on her to even turn it on. At first, she thinks Amy is teasing her when she says she is a TV producer.

Amy lives and breathes her business and is not only shocked but a little hurt that Hallie has no clue what the Bachelorette show is or what she does.

And there is the point of the day when one finally gives in to sleep. For some people TV is a lovely white noise, for others, they never even think to turn it on. Hallie fits into that category. And as Hallie’s life changes I believe she will remain the same, working round the clock and not turning on her TV, only she will have someone in her life to share all the details…

Alexis: Who is Amy and what role does she play in this story? Describe her motivation.

Jackie: Amy is a producer and like Hallie has devoted her life to her art. She has clawed her way up in a male-oriented business and is on the top of her game.

But her show needs a hit season. Because you are only as good as your last hit. And she finds her viewers want the glamour and the glitz on the Bachelorette show and the tears and the thrills, but they also want the happily ever after and her shows had been falling short of that. So she feels they need a special candidate to be their star. And when she reads Jinx’s application about Hallie she stops, and subconsciously can relate to someone who has sacrificed all to get ahead and is now lonely.

Alexis: Why are Amy and Hallie lonely? How does the crossing of their paths help?

Jackie: We all have lonely friends in all age groups, that is not new.

But Hallie and Amy are at the top of their game. It truly is lonely at the top. The other people at work really never ask the higher-ups to have lunch or stop off for a drink.

Amy and Hallie have worked themselves into a bit of isolation. Call it intimidation (in Hallie’s case) or job fear (Amy’s case) but it just isn’t done.

They do not have that network of friends that is so crucial to all of us. They never had time for them when they were younger, possibly even road right over them to get where they were going. And the more they worked, the more that became their world.

Amy and Hallie see themselves in each other. The good, and the tough, and the overworked. So they immediately become sympathetic friends. Initially, Hallie likes having someone at her beck and call, helping her get ready for the show. For Hallie, this is a luxury in itself.

It is tough when Hallie realizes this friendship is partially work for Amy. But they bond because they are so similar. And lonely. And the whole show becomes very personal for both of them. Amy labors over the men who will be the candidates. And she watches all of this from the sidelines. At the point the show is filming, Amy understands Hallie very well and watches closely, and sometimes a little enviously, as Hallie goes on her journey.

Alexis: What do you want readers to remember most about Make Me Over?

Jackie: Any day, any time, you can make yourself over. You can look at people and places and events that are all around you in a new light. You can put yourself on the list and become your own priority without sacrificing your career or the needs of those around you. And that yes, hard work is actually very rewarding and not hard at all if you are in a field you love. And if you are not, well, it is one step to making that change. And of course, taking time to take care of your self is its own reward. And relationships that work have a common theme, love, or devotion to a cause.

Alexis: Thanks for the interview, Jacqueline! Do you have closing comments?

Jackie: Thank you for allowing me to talk about Make Me Over. I hope everyone who enjoys it will email me at jackiegillam@frontier.com.

Email me with your design questions and your own dreams. When I left the design business it was to open my own business with my husband: Her Majesty’s English Tea Room and our Brit shop Fairchild’s. And I found I love doing this even more than the design business.

I am here to encourage anyone to take that leap and start their own business. It is rewarding, exciting, and well, yes, it is hard work. But sometimes you just need that nudge and I am here to supply that. You can reach out to me any time!

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Author Bio:
Jacqueline Gillam Fairchild writes cozy fiction that is escapism to the countryside, and Nantucket. She writes of women who are ready to take the leap into starting their own business, or who just want to start over. At the heart of her writing is the belief we all want a life that is just a little bit prettier and maybe a little bit magical.

Jacqueline owns and operates Her Majesty’s English Tea Room, and her British store Fairchild’s, in the middle of the middle with her Scottish husband, and their Pekingese, Piewacket. A former Interior Designer, she also studied at Le Cordon Bleu, Paris.

Her business was a finalist for gift and decorating Accessories Magazine’s Retailer of the Year award for two years. Her business won the prestigious Icon Award for branding in 2017 from Americasmart, Atlanta.

She is a scriptwriter and a cast member of the Grand Hotel Murder Mystery Troupe, Mackinac Island, Michigan.

She guest writes for Present Magazine and her letters have appeared in the British magazine Lady and Victoria Magazine. Articles about her business have appeared in Gift and Decorative Accessories Magazine and Souvenir and Gift Magazine. 


She is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW) and has been interviewed by them. She gives cooking classes for AGA, the British cookers (ovens) which she represents as a dealer. She speaks to groups on finding the writer in you, starting your dream business, the U.K., gardening, baking and pastry making, and the Royal family. She speaks to groups about her novels and the inspiration they have on women to follow their dreams. She has a book club of writers who meet once a month at her tea room and has sponsored writers sale day events.

Enjoy her daily blog at jgfairchild.wix.com/tea-room-life.

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Book Blurb for Make Me Over:

Welcome to Make Me Over



Megastar interior designer Hallie Great constantly hears clients demand she makeover their homes. Yet her own personal life is nonexistent until her meddling friend Jinx enters her to be the next Bachelorette. Not that Hallie watches TV or even knows what this means. But the coveted slot of bachelorette includes a serious personal makeover…

Paths cross for two women with entirely different careers. Both realize they have devoted every waking moment to their jobs—and find just one complaint: they are lonely. Amy is a reality TV producer for the Bachelorette Show; Hallie owns an interior design mega business. The producer and designer both understand what it took the other to claw their way to the top of their fields—and that is enough to form a friendship.

Can the failing reality show be saved with a new twist--an older, bit more desperate bachelorette? A not quite so picky bachelorette, even if she is there by force? Bachelors are professional men, older; it goes without saying, and hopefully willing to relocate to the home of the interior design maven. There are no rollerblading dates. Dates are at trade shows so the interior designer can not only keep working, but the men get a true feeling for what they may be in for.

One of the bachelors is a disgruntled employee of the bachelorette—so out of sight in her empire, she doesn’t even recognize him. This is his chance to get back at her for all her demanding ways—but what if he starts falling for her?

And the producer is cheering for one mystery author—maybe because she has taken a liking to him …

Dating is always difficult, but the older one gets the rougher the whole dating machine becomes, with or without the help of reality TV.

From a gorgeous Edwardian Mansion, being made over for the Junior League, to sunny California and the Bachelorette Mansion.

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