Interview with Nichole J. Suvar about her new nonfiction book

Interview with Nichole J. Suvar about her book, I Don't Have to Hold It All Together: Cultivating the Peace of Eden When Feeling Overwhelmed

Alexis: Why did you write this book? Share the story behind its creation.

Nichole: Anxiety has been a part of me for as long as I can remember.

I have memories of panic attacks in early elementary school. It wasn't until I was 36 years old that I received a diagnosis of generalized anxiety disorder and major depression. At that time, I started what I call a healing journey. I saw a doctor for medication, started seeing a counselor, and began learning tools that I could use to help me address this overwhelming anxiety.

One thing that kept coming back to me as I went through this healing journey was thinking about Eden and how absolutely lovely and perfect it had to have been. Coupled with my struggle with an anxiety disorder, was perfection, and the striving for control. Because we believe that when we can control things, it helps us feel less anxious.

I would often ask myself, what part of this life that I'm experiencing right now was good back in Eden, but now it's just a little distorted because of the fall.

And because I was thinking through that quite a bit, it led me to think about different areas that God has left here for us, different attributes of Eden, that we can cultivate in our lives to better understand our Father, our Creator, and to know His peace more deeply.

Alexis: In your book, you talk about God and His creation. How did your faith in God impact your writing of this book?

Nichole: The only reason I wrote this book is because of Jesus Christ. I tried for years to manage this anxiety on my own. I thought I had to get it all figured out and had to get myself together before I could be of any use in the Kingdom of God.

Because of that, I wasn't taking it all to the Father (God) and asking Him to help me relieve it. I saw those verses in Scripture that tell us to “cast our cares on Him” and “not to be anxious about anything” as commands, not invitations. But when I started seeing my Father as One who wants to come alongside me and relieve me of these burdens, it helped me draw closer to Him rather than hide from Him and shame.

Alexis: You talk about how you lived with undiagnosed anxiety for over 30 years. How did you survive? Share how your life changed after your illness was diagnosed and treated by doctors.

Nichole: Survival is a great way of putting it because I survived, but I was not thriving. I just held on and white-knuckled my way through life. I kept myself busy. I got a lot done. As a high-functioning anxious person, I had a lot of things on my plate, and I could get a lot of things done because anxiety was fueling all of it. But if I really allowed myself to stop and slow down, the anxiety would overwhelm me. So, I just kept moving.

I tried to read my Bible more and pray more, but it came to a point where I felt shame because I just could not get a handle on the anxiety. It wasn't until I had a diagnosis and realized that this generalized anxiety disorder is more than just someone who doesn't have enough faith and they're worried about something, but it was an actual thing going on inside of my body.

And when I could see it that way, my perspective changed because I saw it as something in my body that wasn't functioning as it should. And I have to keep bringing it back to God every day, looking to Him to be the strong One to bring me through it. Instead of being the strong one and relying on myself, I have to admit that I am weak and trust Him to be strong.

Alexis: Why do you think there is a rise of anxiety in our culture?

Nichole: We have access to anything and everything. We know way more than what we need. We are handling way more in our brains than we need to. We're moving through life at increasingly faster speeds. We know way more than what our brains were made to really handle. And we are connected at all times.

Because of that, we don't have these times where we have the space to really rest. We are not spending nearly as much time with our Father (God) as we should. A lot of that is replaced by screens, endless to-do lists, and crammed schedules. Plus, social media is prevalent and always gives us a reason to compare and feel like we're behind. All of that adds up to a culture of anxiety.

Alexis: If you could speak into the life of every person living with anxiety, what would you say to encourage them in only a few sentences?

Nichole: Anxiety can come from a lot of different directions. Sometimes the root is unconfessed sin we need to bring before God. It could be a relationship that needs to be addressed. It could be an actual diagnosis of something, meaning our hormones or brain chemicals are unbalanced. There could be a lot of reasons for the anxiety.

Regardless of the source, we need to take it to Jesus first. We need to bring Him into it with us. He wants to meet us in the middle of it and to help us. And so, our first step is to invite Him in.

You can struggle with anxiety and still have a deep relationship with Jesus. Struggling with anxiety does not disqualify you in the kingdom of God. Just make sure that you're taking it to Him instead of trying to handle it yourself.

Alexis: You made an interesting point about how we as humans have always been chasing peace in all the wrong places. Why do you think it’s like that for us?

Nichole: The fall distorted things and made us start to think that we were in control.

When we're in control, we start to believe we're also in control of peace. But the problem is, we manufacture the peace instead of going to our Father (God), the true source of peace. We're trying to build it ourselves by controlling situations, people, places, and things.

It's the enemy's lie to keep us focused on our own things, thinking that we can control it. Because when we believe we can control it, we aren't taking it to God.

Alexis: What is the solution to our ongoing search for peace?

Nichole: Jesus. And we need to see that every part of our life needs to be brought to Him, every little bit. Nothing is insignificant for Him. And when we are bringing Him into the middle of everything, even the messy parts, He is ready to carry it for us. He is ready to meet us there, be with us, and carry us through.

Alexis: How did God teach you to let go of perfectionism, control and endless activity?

Nichole: It is an ongoing lesson as I continue to learn more about how anxiety affects me.

I see that when I pursue perfectionism, control, and endless activity, I am leaving less room for God to be God. When I chase after perfectionism, control, and productivity, I'm putting myself on the throne.

And sometimes, in some seasons, it has to be a daily giving up of that throne. I want to keep putting myself on it, but God has shown me time and time again that when I'm willing to let things be less than perfect, allow him to be the One in control, and to actually embrace rest, I can walk into a deeper relationship with Him.

Alexis: You said that your book invites people to return to the garden God created, one where true peace is designed. What do you mean? Please explain how this will help them as they journey through this life on Earth.

Nichole: In my book, I talk about seven attributes of Eden that are still present here today, helping us access God's peace and know Him better. I call these things God's design for mental wellness. He does not want us to live in a state of overwhelm and hurry. He wants us to live with a trusting heart, resting in his provision and not our own.

When we look to cultivate these Edenic attributes in our lives, it has to be intentional. Think about when you start a garden, you have to do your part, which involves getting seeds, tilling up the ground, planting the seeds, and even giving them a first watering from a garden hose. But then after that, the sunshine, rain, little sprouts, blossoms, fruit, and vegetables—all of that comes from God.

We have to be intentional with our part in cultivating the garden. We have to go in and pluck out weeds, but all of the increase and growth and provision comes from God. And when we are cultivating these parts of Eden, we're doing the parts that we can, and we're trusting God to bring the increase, to bring the peace.

Alexis: You’ve mentioned that God’s original plan holds the answers to our deepest desires. How so? And what was His original plan?

Nichole: His original plan was for humans to be in the garden with Him, to walk in communion with Him, to be in complete rest and peace, to be surrounded by beauty and perfectness. That is God's original plan. So, when we look at His original plan, what parts of Eden has He designed for us to still enjoy today? And those are the attributes that I discuss in my book.

Alexis: You’ve said that we don’t have to keep searching for peace because it’s been available to us all along. What do you mean by this powerful point?

Nichole: The peace that’s been available all along comes from God. We try to manufacture our own peace by checking off the to-do list, organizing more things, and getting our schedule the way it should look.

We believe that when we have those in a certain way, we will be able to calm the chaos, and we'll feel more peaceful. But the truth is, all of that is manufactured by us, and the peace attached to it is fleeting. But God's peace is permanent and steadfast, even in the middle of any kind of chaos.

That is the peace that's been available to us all along.

Alexis: What do you want readers to take away from your book?

Nichole: I want the readers to experience life with their hands open, not grasping for control or creating their own comforts, but looking for ways God is providing for them and meeting them in the middle of their overwhelm, anxiety, and chaos. I want them to see how they can have a deeper relationship with Him when they choose to let Him be the one holding everything together, not them.

Alexis: Thanks for the interview, Nichole! 

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Author Bio:

Nichole J. Suvar is an author and speaker who knows what it feels like to live overwhelmed, rushed, and stretched thin by anxiety. 

Now, through her books, devotions, podcast, and speaking, she helps women slow down, understand what’s beneath the overwhelm, and step into a more grounded, purposeful life—one that reflects the peace God designed for them. She has published five books, her latest being I Don’t Have to Hold it All Together, Cultivating the Peace of Eden When Feeling Overwhelmed.

Nichole lives with her family in Northern Indiana. She collects chairs—the more colorful, the better—thinks all the best food is in sandwich form, and will stop everything to read a map. She’s a fan of hiking, cozy cardigans, and Earl Grey Tea, and she’s learning that life unfolds better with open hands instead of tightly held fists. 

You can connect with her at livewithintent.org

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Blurb for Nichole's book:

In the beginning, God poured His love into a garden.

The Bible begins with the story of creation. God builds a beautiful world . . . and a garden. In the garden of Eden, creation drank of God’s goodness and lived in His perfect peace. Yet since the fall of humanity, we’ve all struggled to find or create our own versions of Eden. We’ve been chasing peace in all the wrong places.

Nichole Suvar knows this all too well. Living with undiagnosed anxiety for over 30 years, she’s tried to build a garden of Eden through perfectionism, control, and endless activity. These self-made solutions only deepened her unrest.

I Don’t Have to Hold it All Together invites you to return to the garden God created, where true peace was designed, and discover how His original plan holds the answers to your deepest desires. Weaving personal stories, practical wisdom, and insights from experts, Nichole explores the deep truths embedded in God’s original garden, truths about communion with God, purpose, community, the goodness of creation, boundaries, true rest, and more.

The rise of anxiety in our culture reflects a broken search for peace. Readers are invited to cultivate a life that seeks after God’s original plan of peace and comfort and identify areas in their life where they have built their own false Eden.

The peace we’ve been searching for isn’t something we can create ourselves; it’s been available to us all along. Come receive His gift.

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Devotionals for the Heart: How God wants us to respond when we're tested

When Your Patience is Tested
A devotional by Erica J. Hill

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

—Galatians 5:22–23 (NIV)

Some days I must remind myself that I need the fruit of the Spirit before I even walk into work, especially when I know my patience may be tested by coworkers who try every bit of it.

The old me would have quickly told them where to go. But once I began seriously following God, I realized something had to change. Many days I find myself praying Lord, help me display the fruit of Your Spirit today. Because it is often in the smallest daily frustrations that our spiritual fruit is truly revealed.

The world has a way of testing us repeatedly, tempting us to respond in ways that contradict the fruit God is growing within us. In Galatians, the Apostle Paul describes the fruit of the Holy Spirit. These nine virtues together form the evidence of the Holy Spirit working within a believer. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are all part of the same spiritual fruit that should be evident in the life of a believer.

Years ago, if someone spoke to me the wrong way, I had plenty of sharp words ready to say. Now I pray that God will hold my tongue and allow His Spirit to guide my words. Without His help, I might still have something unkind to say.

If I am honest, forbearance is the fruit of the Spirit I struggle with the most. I once believed that if someone mistreated me, I should instantly clapback. But Scripture teaches that forbearance means patiently and lovingly enduring the faults of others without retaliation. My words could be cutting, and in trying to bring someone else down, I only ended up lowering myself. God had to teach me that winning an argument is not the same as reflecting the character of Jesus Christ.

But what about the people we must see every day, the ones who drain our time and energy or seem determined to disrupt our peace? Those moments are when the fruit of the Spirit matters most.

Over time, God began to teach me to see people differently. Sometimes the person who talks constantly is not trying to be irritating; they may simply be lonely. The one who complains often may still be learning how to practice gratitude.

Displaying the fruit of the Spirit can look as simple as giving someone five extra minutes to talk when you are ready to rush out the door. It is not about preaching to others or quoting Scripture at them. It is about allowing the Spirit to shape our responses. When we remain steady in Christlike character, others will begin to see that fruit in our lives.

This does not mean allowing people to ignore your boundaries. Healthy boundaries are important. Sometimes displaying the fruit means respectfully saying, “I’m not comfortable discussing that.” Other times it means calmly addressing an offense or examining our own hearts to understand why certain behaviors trigger us so deeply. I have also noticed that the fruit of the Spirit becomes hardest to display when I am tired or overwhelmed. When I take on too much, lose sleep, or try to control everything according to my own plans, my patience grows thin.

That is when I must remind myself to slow down and lean on God instead of my own strength. When the Spirit is at work in us, love replaces irritation and patience replaces frustration. What begins in our hearts becomes visible in our lives, the very fruit Paul describes in Galatians 5:22-23. The fruit of the Spirit is not something we produce on our own; it grows as we remain connected to God and allow His Spirit to shape our hearts day by day. And when the Spirit leads our responses, others don’t just hear our words—they see Christ in the way we live.

Food for thought:
Which part of the fruit of the Spirit do you find most difficult to display in your daily life?

Let's Pray:
Lord, help me to reflect the fruit of Your Spirit in every situation. When I feel impatient, remind me to slow down and respond with love and gentleness. Guard my words, guide my actions, and teach me to see others with compassion. Shape my character so that my life reflects You. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

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Songs of Reflection #1: “I Need You to Survive” by Hezekiah Walker. Listen to it here.

Songs of Reflection #2: “Refiner” by Maverick City Music. Listen to it here.

Songs of Reflection #3: “Spirit Lead Me” by Influence Music & Michael Ketterer. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Erica J. Hill is a wife, mother, and proud grandmother living in Georgia. 

With a career spanning both elementary education and higher education, she has served as an elementary and middle grade English Language Arts (ELA) teacher and now works as an administrative assistant in higher education. Currently pursuing her master’s degree in Instructional Technology and Media Center Specialist, Erica’s love for learning and teaching runs deep.

Raised in the Southern Baptist tradition, she has faithfully served as a Sunday School teacher and now as one of the youth directors at her church. A lifelong writer at heart, Erica once set her passion aside to pursue other career goals—but recently felt God’s undeniable tug to pick up her pen again, this time to write for His Kingdom.

She is currently working on her first book, Worthy. Whole. Woman. It is a devotional that she hopes will be an encouraging resource created to uplift and empower women—especially women of color—to walk confidently in their God-given identity.

Through her words, Erica blends faith in God, personal reflection, and practical wisdom to inspire women to heal, grow, and embrace the fullness of who God created them to be.

Originally from Atlanta, Erica now calls Macon County home, where she lives with her husband and children. In her free time, you’ll usually find Erica curled up with a good book, working on DIY projects, or planning her next travel adventure.

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Connect with Erica:
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leahsgrace2931/

Devotionals for the Heart: When God places you where you belong

When God Places You Where You Belong
A devotional by Terry Overton

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”—Romans 12:2 (ESV)

Have you ever taken an action and then wondered if it was the right thing to do?

You prayed about it, talked it over with loved ones, and trusted God. Later, you found yourself quietly wondering, Did I get this wrong?

This happened to me.

Not long ago, my husband and I moved from the warm, sunny coast to a place more than five-hundred miles inland. Once we decided to make the move, after several weeks of prayer and discussion, we listed our house and found one that seemed to meet our needs and check all the boxes. It was closer to family and on the outskirts of a city full of resources for health, plenty of shopping, restaurants, and services.

But after many cold winters, snowy, and icy days, we began to talk about how much we missed the warmer weather of the coast. With that in mind, I planned a two-week long vacation in the middle of the winter. We could visit our long-time friends, play golf, go on walks, eat in our favorite beachside cafes, and go to the beach. Wondering if moving north had been the right thing to do in this season of life, we discussed the possibility of looking at some of the currently listed homes in our old neighborhood on the coast. The two-week rental seemed perfect, and they allowed us to bring our sweet dog.

What happened next was a clear message from God that He had indeed planned for us to move north and, He put an exclamation on our move during our trip back to the coast. The two-week vacation was shortened to a mere five days. Why? We both wanted to be back in our “own home”. As the verse above states, we should not be conformed to this world or our desires. For me, it meant God was saying, “Do not think you know the path? When guided by Me, do not look back. Only through testing, will you discern My will.”

Just a few days into our dream vacation, my mind was transformed and my appreciation for the wonderful home up north was renewed. When we moved north, it was because He knew there was something better for us in the new location. The short trip underscored His plan for me and helped me to understand to surrender to His plan, I must give up my longing for control. By planning an extended vacation to the coast, I had intended to control outcomes. But God asks us to surrender all outcomes to Him. I was reminded that He plans my steps. He directs my route.

Sometimes God lets us revisit what we thought we missed, not to take us backward, but to show us how much we’ve changed. What once felt like home may not fit who God is shaping us to be now. What once made us long for the past may now feel strangely empty. It’s not because it was wrong, but because it belonged to a different time.

When we returned to our current home, I felt blessed beyond belief. It was God’s plan for us to move here. This was home. I no longer had doubts about His plan. I feel His purposeful presence here. The only way I can discern His plans and transform my own understanding is to be faithful, let go of control, and place everything in His hands.

My visit to the coast confirmed that God had already placed us exactly where we belonged. What once seemed uncertain became a powerful reminder that God sometimes allows us to revisit old places to show us how He has transformed our hearts and redirected our lives.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for providing tests of faith that provide true understanding of Your will. Forgive me for wanting to control the outcomes You have already set in motion for me. Help me to stay close to You and strive to know Your path for me.

In Jesus’s name I pray.

Amen.

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Song of Reflection #1: “He is with Us” by Love & The Outcome. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “I Need Thee Every Hour” (Hymn). Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Terry Overton is a retired university professor of educational and school psychology. She has an Ed.D. in Special Education and a Ph.D. in Psychology. 

Her professional experience includes teaching public school, teaching at the university level, and being a college dean.

She has two children, seven grandchildren, and one great granddaughter.

Her previous writing and publication experiences include textbook and journal articles in the fields of special education and school psychology. She now seeks to answer God’s call to share the good news and grow the church by writing Christian books and devotionals.

Over the years, Terry’s books have won the Mom’s Choice Award, Christian Indie Award, Firebird Book Awards, American Writing Winner Awards, Bookfest Winner Awards, Pencraft Award, Reader Views Silver Reviewers Award, and International Book Award Finalist. Her writing examines real world events with a Christian worldview. She enjoys writing for young children, middle grade readers, YA fiction, and adult level novels.

Terry’s background in teaching adults and children shine through her stories that often include a character with educational or learning challenges. Her Christmas series, The Oddball Ornaments, features a box of misfit ornaments who first learn the meaning of Christmas and then discover the meaning of forgiveness. In The Underground Book Readers series, one of the main characters is on the autism spectrum yet is one of the leaders of the group of teens. Book one of a new series, The Messiah Brigade, features an awkward middle school nerd who helps his school turn around a bully gang of kids. Adoption and family issues are the focus of her new book, Charlotte McMaster and the Messenger Angel.

Terry lives in Texas and enjoys reading, taking pictures for devotional posts on social media, visiting with her family, playing golf, and writing.

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Connect with Terry:
Website: https://www.authorterryoverton.com
Blog: https://terryovertonbooks.com
LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/overtont

Devotionals for the Heart: God's love for you stays steady and forever true

An Uninterrupted Love in a Disorienting World
A devotional by Kim McGovern

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”—Romans 8:38-39 (NIV)

I opened the Night Sky app on my phone and lifted it to the night sky. Its light shone brilliantly against the ink-blackness of the Atlantic Ocean.

Here I was, on a ship in the middle of nowhere, relying on technology to find what sailors had followed for centuries. The phone's glow ruined my night vision, but I needed its help. Everything looked different out here. No landmarks, no light pollution—just stars upon stars upon stars, an overwhelming sky in which the ones I knew were nowhere to be found.

Growing up, I'd always thought the North Star was the navigator's friend—fixed and reliable. But I'd recently learned that magnetic north actually shifts. The pole wanders. What I thought was unmovable...moves. How disorienting.

Isn't this exactly how spiritual disorientation begins?

The pastor we trust is embroiled in scandal. The healing we claim by faith doesn't materialize. The marriage we thought God blessed falls apart. The church that felt like family wounds us deeply. The child we raised in faith walks away. And God? He seems silent right when we need Him most.

Our hearts latched onto these things like fixed points we could navigate by. When they shift—or shatter—we don't just lose the thing itself; we lose our sense of direction. When what we hoped was reliable proves unreliable, we're left spinning in the dark, wondering if God Himself has moved.

That's where my heart lingered for months. Reeling from disappointments I never saw coming. And here I stand, holding up my phone like a cosmic translator, needing an app to tell me what I used to know by heart.

Vega. Altair. Deneb. The app traced the Summer Triangle, and suddenly I could see the massive pattern I'd been looking straight through. Three of the brightest stars in the sky, yet millions of dimmer ones blinded me to their pattern.

The Summer Triangle is not a constellation itself, but an asterism—three stars from three different constellations creating one absolutely reliable navigational pattern. Sailors have trusted it for millennia because, unlike instruments prone to fail, magnetic poles that wander, or human feelings that lie, these stars hold steady.

I lowered my phone and let my eyes adjust. The Triangle blazing overhead had been there all along, even through every one of my dark months.

In my disorientation, I’d forgotten that the Gospel isn't that God will protect us from disappointment—or that churches won't wound us, bodies won't fail, or prayers will always be answered as we expect. The good news is that God loved us so much He sent His Son (Jesus Christ) to deal with the one thing that could actually separate us from Him for all eternity—our sin.

Jesus didn't stay in Heaven, simply sending us better navigation instructions. He dove headfirst into our chaos. Fully God and fully man, He lived the perfect life we couldn't live. Then, on a cross—shaped like Cygnus above me—He took every sin, every separation, every disorienting darkness we would ever face. He died bearing it all. And three days later, He rose, proving that nothing—NOTHING—could ultimately separate us from God's love anymore. Not failure. Not unanswered prayer. Not rejection. Not a diagnosis. Not even our doubts in the dark.

“For I am convinced,” Paul wrote from prison, listing every cosmic force that might threaten us, “nothing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:39 NIV)

God’s love doesn't depend on our ability to feel it. It depends on what Jesus has already accomplished; it's not maintained by our steady faith but by His finished work. The Father sent it. Jesus secured it. The Spirit seals it within us.

The ship rolled gently. Other passengers had retired to bed, but I remained on deck, no longer needing the app. The Triangle blazed overhead, pointing toward the river of light known as the Milky Way.

Tomorrow, the ground might shift again or another trusted thing might fail. But tonight, under stars that have watched a thousand generations struggle with the same disorientations, I am reminded that the love of Jesus holds steady—even when everything else shifts.

It blazes on—an uninterrupted triangle of love in a disorienting world that no disappointment can ever extinguish.

Let's Pray:

Heavenly Father, when everything we thought was fixed starts shifting—when trusted voices fail us, when healing doesn't come, and when You seem silent—remind us that Your love isn't anchored in these things. It is anchored in what Jesus accomplished at the cross. Thank You that no disappointment, betrayal, or disorientation can separate us from the love You secured forever. Help us navigate by this truth when we cannot trust our feelings. In Jesus's name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Just to Know You” by Mark Schultz. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Your Love Never Fails” by Chris Quilala / Jesus Culture/Jesus Culture Music. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Kim McGovern is passionate about helping women reorient their hearts to the uninterruptible love of Jesus Christ. 

A former IT professional turned writer, she meets women in the messy middle of faith—where grief, joy, doubt, and hope often collide. Her work draws from decades of ministry leadership, special needs advocacy, and personal seasons of surrender that deepened her dependence on God's presence.

Kim's writing has been featured by Proverbs 31 Ministries, Encouragement for Today, Joyful Life Magazine, (in)courage ministries, Truly Magazine, and numerous other faith-based publications.

She and her husband savor the quiet rhythms of life on Florida's west coast in Homosassa, where the river serves as their backyard playground. They have four grown children and grandchildren who daily remind them that the best stories are still being written by God's grace.

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Connect with Kim:
Website: https://kimmcgovern.com/
Substack: https://kimmcgovern.substack.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_kim.mcgovern/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KimEMcGovern/

Devotionals for the Heart: Why we should let God carry our grief

God Can Carry Your Grief
A devotional by Heidi Lewis-Ivey

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” 

—Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

Grief is one of the heaviest burdens we can carry. It can feel overwhelming, like a storm that will never pass.

When someone we love is gone, or life doesn’t go as we hoped, pain can consume our thoughts and even disrupt our daily routines. Sleep can become elusive, meals may lose their appeal, and even small tasks can feel monumental. But God is not distant from our suffering; He draws near to us in our sorrow.

When I experienced the unimaginable loss of my brother, I felt as if I were walking through a dark tunnel with no light in sight. Questions ran through my mind: “Why did this happen? We were supposed to grow old together!” “What do I do with the void in my heart?” “How can I move forward and not feel as though I’m forgetting him?” I felt weak, vulnerable, and alone. But in the midst of my grief, I had to turn to God’s Word to rediscover that He was closer than I imagined. Psalm 34:18 reminded me that God is near to the brokenhearted, and His presence is a source of comfort even when life feels heavy.

Grief is not a journey we are meant to walk alone. God’s Word promises that He will walk with us, offering comfort, strength, and hope. Yet, walking with God through grief requires intentional steps, a willingness to open our hearts to Him, and patience with ourselves.

Here are four ways I learned to lean on God when grief feels unbearable:

Way #1: Bring your grief to God in prayer.

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT) says, “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” God wants to hear and feel your pain, your tears, and even your anger. Prayer is not just about asking for relief; it is about giving God permission to carry the weight because you can’t. Be honest with Him. Pour out your heart don’t hold back. There is freedom in knowing that God hears you and understands every ache.

Way #2: Seek comfort in Scripture.
Psalm 147:3 (NIV) says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” When grief clouds our hearts and our minds, Scripture becomes a guide through the dark places. Reading and meditating on God’s promises allows us to see that He is a healer, and our pain does not define the entirety of our story. Over time, His words provide the comfort our souls desperately need.

Way #3: Let the Holy Spirit guide your healing.
John 14:16-17 (NLT) reminds us the Holy Spirit is our constant helper. Jesus Christ said in this verse, “And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you.” Grief can make us feel disoriented or lost, but the Holy Spirit gently leads us, reminding us that we are not alone. By listening to His guidance, we can find small measures of peace each day and begin to experience healing even in the midst of sadness.

Way #4: Take small steps toward restoration.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV) says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Healing is not instant. Grief has its seasons, and each person moves through them differently. Allow yourself to feel, to remember, and to grieve fully, but also trust God to guide your steps forward.

Closing Thoughts:

Grief taught me that it is okay to move slowly. It taught me that leaning on God is not a sign of weakness but a pathway to strength. When I allowed myself to trust God, to bring my pain to Him, and to follow the guidance of His Spirit, I began to feel light return to my heart. Peace replaced some of the heaviness, and slowly, I am beginning to see life with a new perspective one shaped by God’s enduring love.

Even when grief lingers, God’s presence transforms it. The pain may not vanish completely, but His comfort makes it bearable. He provides hope, restoration, and peace that the world cannot take away. God is patient with us. He does not rush our healing or force us to “move on” before we are ready. He walks beside us every step of the way, offering love that never fails.

Take heart in knowing that your grief is seen, your tears are known, and your pain is held in God’s hands. Lean into His promises. Pray without hesitation. Read His Word (The Holy Bible) for comfort. Listen to God’s Holy Spirit for guidance. Take gentle steps forward, trusting that He will bring you to a place of peace.

Let’s Pray:
Father God, thank You for being close to us in our grief. Thank You for holding our hearts when they are broken and for comforting us with Your presence. Help us trust You fully through our pain. Teach us to lean on Your Word, listen to Your Spirit, and take small steps toward restoration. Thank You for never leaving us alone, for healing our hearts, and for bringing hope where there seems to be none.

In Jesus’s Name I pray.

Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “God Restores” by Dynamic Praise. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “The Reason for the World” by Matthew West. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3: “Meet Me There” by Lydia Laird. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Heidi Lewis-Ivey is an affirmed prophet and an internationally acclaimed speaker. 

She impacts audiences with her authenticity and bold style of delivery. She has had the opportunity to minister in Trinidad, St. Thomas USVI, Manchester and Liverpool (England).

Heidi is an award-winning and bestselling author. She is the author of Can I Rest Awhile? and Black Girl Cry: What Black Women Need to Know to Amplify Their Voices. She is a co-author in Soulful Prayers (Volume 1 and Volume 2) and Soulful Affirmations. Heidi is the convener of the Encountering the Courts of God movement and the founder of Visions International, a training ground for five-fold ministry gifts.

She holds a Master of Business Administration in Organizational Leadership from Norwich University and a Bachelor of Science in Management from Boston University. Heidi is the CEO of Nael & Associates Inc and franchise owner of Patrice & Associates recruiting firm. She is a member of the Pentimenti Women Writers Group, a former mentor with Year Up, former board member for Friends of Young Achievers, and a Diversity Equity and Inclusion Strategist.

Heidi is the proud aunt/great aunt of 14 nieces and nephews and two bonus nieces. They are her joy. The older nephews have become her protectors.

Heidi is an NFL football fan. As a child, she taught herself the game. In 2017 she won her NFL.com fantasy football league. Heidi is an avid reader (Audible listener) of romance novels, a lover of purses and handbags, and a tea snob who believes bling is always appropriate.

She lives in Boston, MA.

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Connect with Heidi:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamheidi01
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/heidi-lewis-ivey

Devotionals for the Heart: Walking my dog taught me how to trust God

Why We Need to Let Go of Control
A devotional by Terry Overton

“Now the word of the Lord came to Jonah the son of Amittai, saying, ‘Arise, go to Nineveh, that great city, and call out against it, for their evil has come up before me.’ But Jonah rose to flee to Tarshish from the presence of the Lord. He went down to Joppa and found a ship going to Tarshish. So he paid the fare and went down into it, to go with them to Tarshish, away from the presence of the Lord.”—Jonah 1:1-3 (ESV)

Each morning before the sun inches over the horizon, I bounce eagerly from my bed and dress quickly to partake in an adventure!

I do not travel far on this journey, just a mile or two. My morning itinerary includes taking my dog Bella—a miniature gray and white Schnauzer weighing exactly twelve pounds and two ounces—for our early morning walks. I use this time to praise God for His countless blessings of creation. His handiwork surrounds me on my walking path. The busy sound of chattering squirrels, the deep calls of the hooting owls, budding flowers of spring, trees changing to their fall colors, the rising sun reflecting yellow and orange on the water of our lake. All these wonders in God’s creation proclaim the glory of God and showcase His majesty!

More than once, I have returned from our early morning walk inspired to complete the tasks of the day with renewed strength and joy.

My walk with my dog is not always enjoyable or predictable. My adorable pooch is one of the most stubborn pups I have ever had. She does not realize the direction she wants to travel is in the path of an oncoming car or a 150-pound unruly dog. Bella tugs the leash in the opposite direction from where I am leading her, with more force than expected for a tiny dog. I often find myself wondering if I might be like Bella, guided by God and on a safe path, but with ideas of my own. Do I pull the other way and resist the path He wants me to take?

How often have I failed to let Him be in control? How frequently have I fought against what He asked me to do? Just as Jonah in the Old Testament, have I ignored God’s call and gone in the completely wrong direction? I must confess I have. I have fought for control, I thought I knew better, and became impatient, and subsequently, I have run into challenging circumstances or situations.

When I take control, grow impatient, or ignore His guidance, I end up in painful consequences and only then do I ask God, “Why?” Just like Jonah found himself in the belly of a big fish (kind of like God’s version of a “Time Out” for Jonah to be still and reflect about his bad choices and actions), I land in the center of a disaster when I go my own way. And only then do I look back and retrace the steps I took. Why did I take a particular step? Why did I skip that step? Why did I refuse to step forward or turn backward? Why did I resist or ignore? The answer is simple: I thought I was in control. This is an illusion. We are never in control! Our God is always in charge. We might wish for control, but our reasoning is faulty.

The Bible says in Proverbs 16:9 (ESV), “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” God guides us through Scripture and His actions. We see evidence of His control through the unpredictable events of our lives that He allows: illnesses happen, jobs are lost or obtained, financial crises surface, relationships are found or lost, babies are born, and our loved ones die. These are all beyond our control.

I think that the reason why we strive for control is because when we try to surrender our perception of control, it leads to anxiety. We develop fear when we do not know how our situation will end. A lack of power, feeling helpless or hopeless about events in our lives increases our worry. But through prayer and developing a closer relationship with God, we can choose not to become anxious. He has instructed us to hand our anxiety and worry over to Him.

The Bible advises us in 1 Peter 5:7 (NIV), “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” The Word tells us we can let go of the anxiety by letting God handle our worries. He cares for us and does not wish for us to be burdened with fear and worry.

Jonah learned his lesson, and from the inside of the giant fish, he prayed to God, acknowledging how God had blessed him in the past. He told God he would follow His will. Once Jonah found himself on dry land again, he went to Nineveh, obeyed God, and Nineveh was delivered. God had a plan, and nothing Jonah could do would stop the plans He established.

When I struggle for control, the story of Jonah serves as a valuable example. When I am anxious for control, I must remember to thank God for all He has done and turn over my worries to Him. We don’t know the plan or the answers. But God does and that is all we need to know.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father,

In my weakness, I confess I try to take control instead of resting in Your power. Please forgive me when I forget that Your plan is best. Remind me each day that You alone are in control, and Your ways are higher than mine. Teach me to trust Your guidance so that I may grow closer to You and walk in Your will.

In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “I Surrender” by Hillsong. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “I Give You My Heart” by Hillsong Worship. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #3: “God Has Another Plan” by Babbie Mason. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Terry Overton is a retired university professor of educational and school psychology. She has an Ed.D. in Special Education and a Ph.D. in Psychology. 

Her professional experience includes teaching public school, teaching at the university level, and being a college dean.

She has two children, seven grandchildren, and one great granddaughter.

Her previous writing and publication experiences include textbook and journal articles in the fields of special education and school psychology. She now seeks to answer God’s call to share the good news and grow the church by writing Christian books and devotionals.

Over the years, Terry’s books have won the Mom’s Choice Award, Christian Indie Award, Firebird Book Awards, American Writing Winner Awards, Bookfest Winner Awards, Pencraft Award, Reader Views Silver Reviewers Award, and International Book Award Finalist. Her writing examines real world events with a Christian worldview. She enjoys writing for young children, middle grade readers, YA fiction, and adult level novels.

Terry’s background in teaching adults and children shine through her stories that often include a character with educational or learning challenges. Her Christmas series, The Oddball Ornaments, features a box of misfit ornaments who first learn the meaning of Christmas and then discover the meaning of forgiveness. In The Underground Book Readers series, one of the main characters is on the autism spectrum yet is one of the leaders of the group of teens. Book one of a new series, The Messiah Brigade, features an awkward middle school nerd who helps his school turn around a bully gang of kids. Adoption and family issues are the focus of her new book, Charlotte McMaster and the Messenger Angel.

Terry lives in Texas and enjoys reading, taking pictures for devotional posts on social media, visiting with her family, playing golf, and writing.

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Connect with Terry:
Website: https://www.authorterryoverton.com
Blog: https://terryovertonbooks.com
LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/overtont

Devotionals for the Heart: When you need direction and wisdom from God

Are You on the Right Path?
A devotional by Jessica Brodie

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”—Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

Have you ever gotten lost in the woods? I mean taken a wrong turn while hiking or wandering, then immediately realized you were in trouble.

That happened to my family recently when we were in the mountains for a few days celebrating my stepdaughter’s graduation. We were hiking near a beautiful waterfall and had already seen the big picture view, and now we were making our way toward the base. The written guide warned us the trail would be uneven and steep in some areas, but we weren’t too worried—we’d hiked those kinds of trails before.

We turned where they instructed and picked our way down the jagged rocks. It went on and on for what felt like an hour, and finally, we got to this odd-looking rocky section. The trail seemed to go right through the rocks, but it was a little awkward to do this—especially with our German Shepherd. We had to climb onto a boulder, then sort of wiggle our way through this narrow section of rock and jump at the end, and it wasn’t easy. I was a bit shocked it hadn’t been mentioned in the written guide, but we continued on, painstakingly making our way through the rocks and out the other side.

“This had better be an amazing waterfall,” my son joked.

Then suddenly we came to a dead end. To our left, through the trees, we could glimpse the base of the waterfall, hear children laughing and grownups talking. But ahead of us was just brush and bramble, a thorny mess we certainly weren’t intended to traverse.

“Somehow we’ve gotten off the trail,” I told my family.

What else could we do but turn around and try to make our way back up? But when we got to the rocky section where we’d had to jump, I was stuck—I couldn’t make it up on my own, not without a hand to pull me up or a hefty push from behind. I decided to go around, keeping my eyes on the rocks to make sure I didn’t go too far astray; it was much easier that way. Finally, I got to the top again.

That’s when my stepdaughter pointed. “Look—see that green diamond? That’s the trail we’re supposed to be on.”

She was right. Having found the right path, we made it the rest of the way to the base of the waterfall, hot and sweaty but exhilarated.

Now consider all of this from a spiritual perspective. What do we do when we’re walking what we think is the right path, only gets harder and harder, and finally it gets insanely hard, and we realize we’ve hit a dead end?

Maybe we push ahead stubbornly, muscling our way through that wrong path, determined to make it the right one. Or maybe we turn back around and look for the way back, the right path, the true trail. Our loving God has a path for each of us, only the directions are not always so clear. We walk on that path, trying our best to live right by him. Sometimes we get off the path and encounter obstacles—and sometimes stray so far off the path we wind up in a big mess. All those obstacles we encounter are designed to get us back on His path for us.

We can muscle our way through the brambles all we want, but if we’re not on the right path, if we’re not on God’s righteous path for our lives, it’s not going to lead to the waterfall at the end. What’s necessary is making our way back to the path, learning how to recognize it, looking for those signs.

None of us can ever live in full righteousness this side of Heaven. But we can do our best to walk in alignment with the Lord, to allow the Holy Spirit to operate fully within us. Scripture tells us the Holy Spirit enables us to live a life that reflects the character of the Lord, and we can see this through evidence—fruit—that the Spirit is alive and working in our hearts. Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV) tells us “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” And Jesus Christ, in Matthew 7:16-20, shares how just as every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit, we can recognize those who are living in alignment with the Lord. As He instructs, “By their fruit you will recognize them” (Matthew 7:20).

Look around you. Do you see trail signs letting you know you’re on the right path, or brambles and thorns blocking your way, letting you know it’s time to turn around? Pray on this, then realign your steps and bask in God’s beautiful waterfall.

Let’s Pray: Lord, thank You for loving me enough to provide the true path of righteousness. Help my heart and my feet stay fully aligned to your will and your way, now and always, and if I get off-track, please steer me back to you. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Waterfall” by Chris Tomlin. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Brodie is an award-winning Christian novelist, journalist, editor, blogger, and writing coach. She is also the editor of the South Carolina United Methodist Advocate, the oldest newspaper in Methodism. 

Her Christian contemporary novel, The Memory Garden, released this Spring 2025. Book two in the series releases this Fall 2025. Learn more about Jessica’s writing ministry and read her faith blog at http://jessicabrodie.com. She has a YouTube devotional, and you can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and more. She’s also produced a free eBook, A God-Centered Life: 10 Faith-Based Practices When You’re Feeling Anxious, Grumpy, or Stressed.

Devotionals for the Heart: A teaching about memorial stones in our journey

Every Stone Has a Story
A devotional by Chaplain Paul Anderson

And Joshua said to them, “Pass on before the ark of the Lord your God into the midst of the Jordan, and take up each of you a stone upon his shoulder, according to the number of the tribes of the people of Israel, that this may be a sign among you. When your children ask in time to come, ‘What do those stones mean to you?’ then you shall tell them that the waters of the Jordan were cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it passed over the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. So these stones shall be to the people of Israel a memorial forever.”— Joshua 4:5–7 (ESV)

When the Israelites crossed the Jordan River into the Promised Land, God instructed Joshua to have 12 men, one from each tribe, gather stones from the riverbed.

These stones were more than big rocks. Each was a testimony. Each stone told a story. Each stone was a reminder to future generations of the Lord’s mighty power and faithful deliverance. God intended that these stones would stand as generational reminders about the presence and power of God in their history, their present and their future.

Each of our lives are filled with moments where God has brought us through challenges. When drama swirled around us like a raging flood, He was there. When all hope seemed lost, He was there. These moments are worth remembering, worth passing on as anchors for our children and future generations.

I believe that hope, faith, joy, and praise can be like memorial stones in our spiritual journey—markers that proclaim, “God has been here.” Let’s consider them individually and watch as we review the anchoring and propulsion that we get when they are combined.

Hope is not wishful thinking. Hope is confident expectation based on God’s promises. Hope during trials or triumph reminds us that God is still at work. Hope dares to believe there’s something better on the other side. Hope drives us to take another step and to keep moving forward in life.

When we build our life on hope, we create a memorial that says to our children and our communities, “I believed in God’s future, even when I couldn’t see it.” Hope becomes a stone of testimony. It may sit quietly in our soul. But hope nurtured by congruent action frequently develops fulfillment.

Faith is often shaped in the middle of God’s miracle and long before it is manifest. The Israelites didn’t gather the stones before the waters parted—they gathered them from the dry riverbed after they stepped out in obedience. Faith moves first, often without all the answers, trusting that God will provide. Monumental faith may be a heavy burden until it is placed on us as an altar at which we worship the God who gave us strength.

Your acts of faith, however small or large, can become memorials. The prayer you kept praying when answers didn’t come. The obedience you offered when the path was unclear. These acts tell a story. And when your children or spiritual heirs ask, “How did you keep going?” you can point to your stone of faith and say, “Because I knew God would be with me.”

Joy is a stone that says, “Even in the storm, I sang.” It is a powerful memorial to those around you. When others see your joy, even in hardship, it sparks questions. And like the Israelites explaining the stones at Gilgal, you get to testify: “This joy came from the Lord—it’s not mine, it’s His gift to me.” Nehemiah declared, "The joy of the Lord is your strength" (Nehemiah 8:10). Joy is a deep-rooted gladness that endures through sorrow, difficulty, and loss. It comes from knowing that God is in control and that His goodness will prevail.

Praise is a present-tense declaration of past victories and future confidence. Every time we worship God, we place another stone in our spiritual memorial. Praise reminds us—and those who hear us—of what God has done. Praise cements the story of God’s faithfulness in our own memories. Praise opens a window for the declaration of our spiritual development. Our songs, prayers and testimonies are markers of God’s grace. When we gather with others and lift our voices in worship, we echo the voices of generations past, saying, “Look what the Lord has done.”

In 1 Peter 2:5, believers are called “living stones.” Just as Joshua’s 12 stones were physical reminders of God's power, we ourselves are memorials. We are living, breathing testimonies to God’s grace. Your life can say what stones never could: “He changed me, and He can change you too.”

What stones are you laying down today? What memorials are you building with your hope, faith, joy, and praise? Remember how God has shown up for you. Mark the moments. Let’s become the stories that tell of God’s goodness to a generation hungry for meaning and stability.

Let’s Pray: Lord, help us to remember. Help us to build spiritual memorials with our hope, faith, joy, and praise. May our lives speak of Your goodness and power. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Upon This Rock” by Allison Durham Speer. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “The Story of Your Life” by Matthew West. Listen it here.

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Author Bio:

Chaplain Anderson is the Director Emeritus of Adventist Chaplaincy Ministries for the North American Division. In this role, he was the friend, advocate and gatekeeper for the profession of chaplaincy among Adventist pastors. 

His new mission is to specialize in personal and personnel development coaching. He journeys with and guides clients, personal and corporate, as they define their goals and grow into their full potential.

His pastoral career began in the Allegheny East Conference where he was ordained.

Subsequently, he served in the Potomac Conference at the Sligo and Seabrook churches. His professional dream was to be a chaplain in the United States Navy. He got to live that dream and achieved the rank of Commander before retiring from Naval service in 2015 with 26 years of service.

Chaplain Anderson has earned four graduate degrees: He earned his Master of Divinity Degree was earned at the seminary at Andrews University. He earned a Master’s of Education from the University of Maryland and a Master’s in Sacred Theology from Boston University. His Doctor of Ministry was conferred by Wesley Theological Seminary in Washington D.C.

Chaplain Anderson and his wife Debra have been married for 41 years. They have two healthy, saved and well-adjusted adult children who picked good spouses and delivered four grandchildren.

Adventures through traveling, reading, praying, preaching, teaching and writing are the avenues of ministry and self-care that define his now and his destiny.

You may connect with Chaplain Anderson via email at this address: psanderson75@gmail.com.

Devotionals for the Heart: How to follow God's lead and trust Him

Following God’s Lead and Trusting His Timing
A devotional by Chaplain Paul Anderson

“At the command of the Lord the people of Israel set out, and at the command of the Lord they camped. As long as the cloud rested over the tabernacle, they remained in camp.”—Numbers 9:18 (ESV)

The Israelites had an extraordinary guide in their wilderness journey: the visible presence of God in a cloud by day and fire by night.

Whenever the cloud lifted, they moved. Whenever it settled, they stayed. There was no set schedule or predictable pattern. Sometimes, they camped for a night; other times, they stayed for months. Their movement was entirely dictated by God’s command.

How often have you wished for tangible, divine leadership in your decision making? I often wrestle with the difference between calls and opportunities. I see calls as direct summons from God to do something specific or to go somewhere definitive. Opportunities are good ideas and possibilities for success.

This passage speaks profoundly to our own walk with God. Like the Israelites, we often desire a predictable roadmap, a five-year plan, or at least a clear next step. But God calls us to trust Him with our timing. The challenge is not just in moving when He says “go” but also in waiting when He says “stay.”

The Israelites did not wander aimlessly and neither should we. Their movement was determined by the presence of God. Likewise, our direction should come from Him. The world offers countless methods for decision-making—logic, emotions, advice from others—but ultimately, it is God’s presence and His Word that should guide us. His Spirit speaks through Scripture, prayer, and godly counsel.

The passage in Numbers illustrates an important truth: God’s timing is not always predictable or convenient. Often, we are eager for the next phase of life. A new job, a relationship, or a resolution to a challenge may beckon. But God, in His infinite wisdom, sometimes asks us to wait. Other times, He moves us suddenly, requiring us to step out in faith without having all the details. Trusting His timing is everything, especially when we are eager or reticent.

Faith is not just about waiting; it’s also about obedience when God calls us to step forward. When the cloud lifted, the Israelites didn’t hesitate or question whether they were ready—they simply obeyed.

Delayed obedience is often a form of disobedience. If God is calling us to something—whether to serve, to give, to forgive, or to step into an unfamiliar place—our response should be immediate trust. Just as the Israelites moved at God’s command, we are called to step forward in faith when He leads us. But what about when delays persist and we are required to wait?

Some seasons of life feel stagnant, as if we are stuck in one place, longing for movement. The Israelites had times when they camped for long periods. In those periods, God was shaping them, teaching them to depend on Him. Likewise, our waiting seasons are opportunities for growth, deeper intimacy with God, and preparation for what’s ahead. The task in waiting is to learn what God wants us to master while we wait.

There are four practical lessons we can draw from this devotional passage:

Lesson #1: As did the Israelites, we must be aware of God’s presence in our lives.

Lesson #2: We must learn to trust His timing.

Lesson #3: When He moves, we must also because delayed obedience is disobedience.

Lesson #4: The waiting room is not designed to frustrate us but to prepare us for God’s next movements in our lives.

God’s plan is always best, and His timing is always perfect. Whether He leads us into movement or stillness, let us follow Him wholeheartedly.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for your perfect guidance. Help us to trust in your timing, whether You are calling us to move forward or to wait. Give us faith to obey immediately when You lead and patience when You ask us to be still. May we always be sensitive to Your presence and find peace in knowing that You are in control.

In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection #1: “Wait on the Lord” by Donnie McClurkin. Listen to it here.

Song of Reflection #2: “Trust and Obey” with lyrics written by John H. Sammis and sung by The Vagle Brothers. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Chaplain Anderson is the Director Emeritus of Adventist Chaplaincy Ministries for the North American Division. In this role, he was the friend, advocate and gatekeeper for the profession of chaplaincy among Adventist pastors. 

His new mission is to specialize in personal and personnel development coaching. He journeys with and guides clients, personal and corporate, as they define their goals and grow into their full potential.

His pastoral career began in the Allegheny East Conference where he was ordained.

Subsequently, he served in the Potomac Conference at the Sligo and Seabrook churches. His professional dream was to be a chaplain in the United States Navy. He got to live that dream and achieved the rank of Commander before retiring from Naval service in 2015 with 26 years of service.

Chaplain Anderson has earned four graduate degrees: He earned his Master of Divinity Degree was earned at the seminary at Andrews University. He earned a Master’s of Education from the University of Maryland and a Master’s in Sacred Theology from Boston University. His Doctor of Ministry was conferred by Wesley Theological Seminary in Washington D.C.

Chaplain Anderson and his wife Debra have been married for 41 years. They have two healthy, saved and well-adjusted adult children who picked good spouses and delivered four grandchildren.

Adventures through traveling, reading, praying, preaching, teaching and writing are the avenues of ministry and self-care that define his now and his destiny.

You may connect with Chaplain Anderson via email at this address: psanderson75@gmail.com.

Devotionals for the Heart: When God gives you space to struggle

Space to Struggle
A devotional by Tessa Huckstep

“But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.”

–1 Peter 5:10 (KJV)

Have you ever heard it said that if you help a butterfly escape his chrysalis, he will die shortly after?

It is difficult to watch the butterfly struggle to push out of its chrysalis. We don’t enjoy sitting back and watching difficulty or suffering. But it is this struggle that strengthens the butterfly and prepares it for the future.

This past year at university, I had a professor who would not answer all my questions. After I asked a question in class she would say, “Hmm, that is interesting. We should explore that.” I knew by the look in her eyes that she knew the exact answer to my question, but she wanted me to figure it out on my own. At first, I was baffled that she would not just answer my questions. Answering questions is what teachers do! But after researching my questions and coming to answer them on my own, I understood why my professor would not just give me the answer. I learned so much more through the process of searching for the answer than I would have if she would’ve given me the answer as soon as I asked the question.

In the career field of Education, there is a certain area of learning that all teachers strive to guide their students toward. As students learn, they move toward things they are capable of understanding, but do not yet understand. In this area of learning, students struggle. However, the place of struggle is the optimal environment for learning to take place. The best learning takes place during the struggle.

I have often been guilty of going to God and asking why He would allow me to struggle. It is okay to ask God questions, but it is not always easy to hear His answers. Sometimes, we struggle because in our struggle we are learning to lean on God for our strength–far more than we would without the struggle. Through our struggles, we are spiritually strengthened and more established in God’s love.

A butterfly must struggle out of its chrysalis in order to survive in its new and beautiful life. As Christians, we are learning to live a new and beautiful life in Jesus Christ. The struggles we go through are a natural part of life, though they can be painful in the moment. Take hope to heart as you remember this truth: After the struggle, you will be stronger and more established in your relationship with Christ than before and you’ll be better because of it.

Let’s Pray: Dear Lord, thank You for the struggles You send our way to strengthen us! Please help us to remember that our struggles are only for a season. You are preparing us for a new and beautiful life. Help us to look beyond our struggle and keep our eyes on You and trust that You are working all things out for our good. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Not for a Moment” by Meredith Andrews. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Tessa Huckstep grew up in rural Illinois. She was born to Christian parents and has known Jesus Christ personally since the age of five. 

Currently, Tessa is attending community college and majoring in elementary education. In the future, she plans to teach in the public school system, hoping to bring the love of God with her.

Tessa enjoys being active in her local church. She serves as a co-teacher for the two-to-five year old class where there is never a dull moment.

It is Tessa’s passion to be a girl after God’s own heart and through her studying of God’s Word, Tessa longs to draw closer to her Savior. Through her writing, she longs to take others with her on this journey of faith.

Tessa loves all things Regency, needlework, and dainty teacups of every size.

When she isn’t writing or studying for exams, she can be found in the kitchen with more flour in her hair and on the floor than in the bowl, though the mess is always half the fun!

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Devotionals for the Heart: When you're standing at a crossroads in life

Crossroads Decisions: What if We Make the Wrong Choice?
A devotional by Dr. Gladys Childs

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose."—Romans 8:28 (ESV)

How often have we stood at a crossroads, where each path looked equally inviting, wondering if one wrong step could mess up God's plan for our lives? But here's the comforting truth: God's will for us isn't a tightrope we must walk, fearing one false step will send us tumbling. It's like a river guiding us, even when we make unexpected turns.

People often fear making the wrong decision for a few reasons. First up, there's the worry about consequences. Then there's the fear of regret: that nagging thought of "What if I make the wrong choice?" can repeat in our minds. Another biggie is the fear of missing out—this is about more than just social events but big life decisions too. Lastly, there's a deep desire for approval. We're social creatures, so choosing something that might lead to criticism or disappointment from those we respect and love can be daunting.

These fears are authentic and valid, but they also highlight our need for trust—trust in God's guidance, in the wisdom He provides, and in His overarching plan for our lives. Remembering that God is with us, guiding each step we take, doesn't eliminate the fear. Still, it gives us the courage to move forward, knowing we're not navigating this journey alone.

In the life of believers who do their utmost to live according to God's Word—diving into devotionals, participating in the Christian community, engaging in prayer, paying tithes, and serving others—the question of decision-making, especially between two good options, becomes less about choosing "right" or "wrong" and more about seeking alignment with God's broader will for their lives. Imagine a person deciding between two job offers. Both are good, but they lead in slightly different directions. The individual has prayed and sought counsel but still feels torn. Remember, God is less concerned about which job we choose and more interested in how we trust Him in the decision-making process and how we plan to glorify Him in our chosen paths.

Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV) offers the promise, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." When we have laid our decision before God, we can trust in His peace to guide us, knowing He's with us on either path, ready to use our choice for our good and His glory.

Also, remember the role of community is crucial in our journey of faith and decision-making. When faced with decisions, especially those between two good options, leaning on the wisdom and insight of trusted fellow believers can provide clarity and peace. Proverbs 11:14 tells us we can enrich our discernment process with the perspectives of those walking with God.

The key to overcoming decision paralysis is to ground our choices in faithfulness to God. When our decisions arise from a place of devotion, prayer, and a desire to act according to God's will, the pressure of making the 'perfect' choice diminishes. Instead, we find freedom in knowing God is with us in every choice, guiding us and using our decisions to fulfill His divine plan.

Moreover, having faith means embracing imperfection and letting go of the need for everything to be perfect. God calls us not to be perfect decision-makers. He’s called us to be His faithful followers. Even when we make mistakes or take wrong turns, God's grace catches us and sets us back on course.

In moments of indecision, let's remind ourselves to seek God's presence through prayer and to reflect on our intentions. Are our choices a reflection of our devotion and desire to serve Him? If so, we can proceed confidently, knowing there is no wrong decision in our hearts.

Let’s Pray: Dear Lord, as we face decisions, guide us with Your wisdom and fill our hearts with peace that transcends understanding. Help us trust in Your sovereign plan, knowing each choice is part of Your greater plan. Strengthen us to make decisions rooted in faith, not fear, and to rely on the support of our Christian community. In every moment, let our choices glorify You, confident in Your loving guidance. In Jesus’s Name I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Whatever Your Plan Is” by Josie Buchanan. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Dr. Gladys Childs is an author, speaker, religion professor, pastor's wife, and mom helping others be F.R.E.E. to Thrive© for the abundant life God has for them. She serves as Chaplain at Texas Wesleyan University and the Women’s Director at LifePoint Fellowship. She brings 25 years of experience and knowledge to her ministry. 

Gladys is frequently called authentic, witty, and candid as she shares her journey through life’s ups and downs. Her passion is meeting people at the intersection of faith and life’s difficulties. No stranger to heartache herself, she grew up in a non-church-going family with an alcoholic mother and is a trauma survivor.

Gladys holds a Ph.D. in Foundations of Education, a Master’s in Religious Education, a Master of Divinity, and a B.A. with a double major in Counseling and Psychology. Also, she is an ordained Elder in the United Methodist Church.

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Devotionals for the Heart: Why God's plans are better than our own

God’s Ways Are Greater Than Mine
A devotional by Hannah Benson

“For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”—Isaiah 55:9 (ESV)

Trusting that God knows best can be a difficult lesson to learn. If you’re anything like me, then I’m sure you have plans. Perhaps hopes and dreams that eventually become plans. Maybe you’re planning to go to college or pursue a career that you’ve long admired as a child.

As much as we try to, the fact is that we don’t have control over everything in our lives. When God’s plans don’t line up with our own, it’s tempting to become angry.

I’ve been there.

When it comes to long-time choices like careers or even smaller decisions like what groups to join, classes to take, or trips to embark on, we may have our plans. But at some point, if we go ahead without truly seeking God, He will intervene and show us that it was not His plan.

Now, that might sound harsh, and like I said before, it can be a tough pill to swallow.

But God only has our ultimate best interest in mind. When we truly surrender to God and His will for our lives, we will find that His plans are so much better than our own.

I remember when I was a child, I had plans to pursue acting full-time. I thought that perhaps I would get a job in the Christian film industry. I began heading down that path and focused on acting. Looking back, God was trying to get ahold of me and show me that acting wasn’t all He had for me. But in my stubborn deafness, I refused to listen until one day God revealed to me that He had other plans.

At the time, I inwardly rebelled against them. Acting was part of my plan, and I didn’t want to change my plan. When God revealed to me that the plans I had for myself weren’t what He had for me, it was incredibly disappointing at first. No one likes to realize that their entire life plan isn’t the path they should be going down.

Maybe my plan sounds less dramatic than your “entire life plan.” Maybe it’s your goals for this year, this month, or tomorrow. Maybe it’s a job opportunity that logic tells you should take but you know in your heart God wants you to trust Him and choose another, less “obvious” option.

I encourage you if you don’t know what God’s plans are for you, ask Him. He will show you. Maybe we won’t know where we’re supposed to be 10 years from now. That’s okay. But He will guide us through each day. And if our hearts are in tune with His Spirit, then I believe that He will unveil His plan for each of us. Sometimes God’s plans for us unfold slowly and not as quickly as we would like, but we can trust that He will show us His plans for our life in His perfect time.

Let’s Pray:
Dear Father God, please forgive me for following my own plan. Please help me to be in tune with You and to listen when You call. Father, I want to hear from You! Please help me realize that I don’t need to know every single part of Your plan for my life right now. Teach me how to rest in You and trust You to make everything clear to me. In Jesus’s Name, I pray. Amen.

Song of Reflection: “Control” by for KING & COUNTRY. Listen to it here.

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Author Bio:

Hannah Benson is a Jesus-follower who’s passionate about sharing the love of Christ with others. 

From the time she could hold a pen, she was writing. But it wasn’t until she was sixteen that she began to seriously follow God’s calling to write a novel. Hannah is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW) and has at least four novels in the works. For the past five years, she has been involved with her local Biblical theater company. She wants to show others the love of Jesus through the creative arts.

When she’s not acting or working on her upcoming novel, you can find Hannah laughing with her siblings, cuddling her little fluffy dog, or reading books (usually historical fiction or fantasy stories). You can read more of Hannah’s writings on her blog or on her Instagram where she strives to write content that leaves others feeling encouraged.

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